School and Public Shootings in the USA, a Solution

 

 

School and Public Shootings in the USA, a Solution

The Top Gun National Crises Troubleshooter, Retired

https://gadflyblog.com/tag/shootings

6/17/2018

Bullies

On examination of previous school and public shootings, the term “bullies” has come up possibly as a common denominator.  Given that “bullies” are at the root of the cause of these shootings, I hereby submit my proposal for mitigation of these shooting incidents in the USA.

 

At the Lawrence Livermore National Laboratory (LLNL) in my past experience (18 years ago) and a local church (current to date), I have noticed that the number of persons developing the “only-child syndrome” in regard to the bully complex has increased.  The number of “only children has increased dramatically in the past twenty years. This could explain the increase in school violence, as more bully and more passive aggressive personalities would result in more conflict.

 

During my last several years at LLNL, I was often paired up with the new employees that were exhibiting this bully communication style, since I had been through the special training to transform an aggressive communicator to an assertive Communicator (for good reasons).   The basic tip-off that I was dealing with an only child bully was that, on meeting them the first time, or sometime after, they would hit me with a blast of criticism. Dr. Kevin Leman wrote a separate chapter in his latest book on the subject, titled The Lonely Only: Super Firstborn Only Children. [i] In it, he listed the Strengths and Weaknesses of Only Children. [ii]

Assertive communicators make very good team players and the basic group at LLNL could be termed a “task force to accomplish a mission.”  A synopsis of the methods used to transform the bullies to an assertive communicator is given below.

 

Proposal to Mitigate Public Shootings

 

Communication Styles

 

The pundits of communication have identified four styles of communication that pretty much describe all of our citizens.  They are identified by four different characteristics.

 

Passive Aggressive Submissive Assertive Aggressive
You win; I lose, but I will get you back You win; I lose You win; I win I win; you lose
Snake-in-the-grass Doormats Adults Tyrant
Loser to tyrant Child to adult Adult to adult Adult to child

Becoming a Passive Aggressive, Submissive or Aggressive communicator is a function of birth-order and environmental knowledge learned early in life (less than six years old).  Becoming an Assertive Communicator is a function of training and education.   A slight modification of this standard chart to accommodate the Bullies in our schools and society is as follows:

Passive Aggressive Submissive Assertive Aggressive
You win; I lose, but I will get you back You win; I lose You win; I win I win; you lose
Snakes in the Grass Child to adult Adult to adult Tyrant to child,  only child syndrome
Shooters Doormats Adults Bullies

 

At the LLNL, (in my past experience) dealing with bullies was a standard and common practice. LLNL is well known for allowing only the best and the brightest through the front door.  Academically, the firstborns in their family and only children or children raised as only children (functional only children) were typically at the top of their class in college, [iii] Therefore, LLNL was made up of personnel that were predominately in these two categories, and therefore it was not unusual for LLNL to have a significant number of bullies.  This situation was mitigated by having an on-contract professional communication specialist who conducted seminars at LLNL.  When a bully made themselves known to management, they were encouraged to attend these communication seminars.

 

The following could be called the Ten Commandments (Ten Guidelines) for communication.  The objective for all of society, including schools, is to become assertive communicators (You win; I win). 

 

Interpersonal Communication Techniques Explained [iv] 

“It  doesn’t matter how you became what you are; this is what works.Manuel J. Smith, Ph.D.

(1) Broken Record: A skill, by calm repetition – saying what you want over and over again – teaches persistence without you having to rehearse arguments or angry feelings beforehand, in order to be ‘up’ for dealing with others.

Effect: Allows you to feel comfortable in ignoring manipulative verbal side traps, argumentative baiting, irrelevant logic, while sticking to your desired point.

(2) Fogging: A skill that teaches acceptance of manipulative criticism by calmly acknowledging to your critic the probability that there may be some truth in what he says, yet allows you to remain your own judge of what you do.

Example: That’s true. I …”

Effect: Allows you to receive criticism comfortably without becoming anxious or defensive, while giving no reward to those using manipulative criticism.

(3) Free Information: A skill that teaches the recognition of simple cues given by a social partner in everyday conversation to indicate what is interesting or important to that person.

Effect: Allows you to feel less shy in entering into conversation while at the same time prompting social partners to talk more easily about themselves.

(4) Negative Assertion: A skill that teaches acceptance of your errors and faults (without having to apologize) by strongly and sympathetically agreeing with hostile or constructive criticism of your negative qualities.

Effect: Allows you to look more comfortably at negatives in your own behavior or personality without feeling defensive and anxious, resorting to denial of real error, while at the same time reducing our critic’s anger or hostility.

Example:You didn’t do too well in (criticism).” “You’re right. I wasn’t too smart in the way I handled that, was I?” “That was a dumb thing for me to do.” Use this technique in non-legal matters ONLY!

(5) Negative Inquiry: A skill that teaches the active prompting of criticism in order to use the information (if helpful) or exhaust it (if manipulative), while prompting your critic to be more assertive and less dependent on manipulative ploys.

 Effect: Allows you more comfortably to seek out criticism about yourself in close relationships while prompting the other person to express honest negative feelings and improve communication.

Example: “What was it about … that is wrong?”  “What was it that I … that was wrong?”

(6) Self-Disclosure: A skill that teaches the acceptance and initiation of discussion of both the positive and negative aspects of your personality, behavior, lifestyle intelligence, to enhance social communication and reduce manipulation.

Effect: Allows you comfortably to disclose aspects of yourself and your life that previously caused feelings of ignorance, anxiety, or guilt.”

Example: “I like …” or “I don’t like …”, etc.

(7) Workable compromise: In using your verbal assertive skills, it is practical, whenever you feel that your self-respect is not in question, to offer a workable compromise to the other person.  You can always bargain for your material goals unless the compromise affects your personal feelings of self-respect.  If the end goal involves a matter of your self-worth, however, there can be no compromise.

(8) Reflective or Active Listening

Reflective or active listening serves a couple of purposes.  1) The target summarizes or paraphrases what the verbal bully is saying and confirms their complaint or position.  2) The target is given time to think of their response.  This technique is something like counting to ten before returning the punch!  3) If the verbal bully is attacking with a question, repeat or rephrase the question, and then answer the question.  This technique also allows the target time to think before responding. This technique is sometimes used by politicians, only they may even go so far as to change the question to one they can answer!

(9) Expand Your Repertoire of Emotional Words

 

 

(10) Find or Organize a Group to Practice these New Communication Skills

 

11) Pass on Your New Communication Skills to Someone Else.

 

Discussion

 

The big question is: can these assertive communication techniques change the personalities of the aggressive bullies and the passive aggressive shooters? Will the aggressive and the passive aggressive use these techniques to advance their own agendas? An alternative would be to place the only children who tend to be aggressive in the same classes so they are matched with students of the same aggressive personalities. In the 1980’s, China enacted their “One Child Only” policy. That would mean that China is ahead of the USA in dealing with these aggressive personalities, as all the children in China would be only children. However, as Dr. Kevin Leman has observed, “When it comes to finding the perfect mate, only children are like vanilla ice cream—they go together with everything, except another only child.” [v] It looks like China has recognized this trend of incapability of two only children as mates and has enacted a new policy of two-child families. However, this policy will not produce the middle born peace-keepers and natural negotiators.

 

As purposed in an earlier letter, a task force could be assembled at a local church consisting of persons who have been members of the Explorers group for several years. This group could act as a pilot program for proof of principle and a problem-solving task force. My observation is that at least one of these members is an only child who has been through these assertive training programs, along with a much younger only child involved in the education system. Therefore, this mix of personalities should produce a successful task force.

[i] Dr. Kevin Leman, “The Birth Order Book” “Why you Are the Way You Are”, Pub. Revell, 2009, Chapter 7

[ii] Ibid p 147

[iii] Ibid

[iv] Manuel J. Smith, Ph.D., “When I say no, I feel guilty”, Bantam Books, 1975, pp 323-324

[v] http://drleman.com/

 

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Human Trafficking for Food Production

Human Trafficking for Food Production Ver. 1.0.1

The Transportation of Youths to the USA for Farm Labor

“The Top Gun National Crises Troubleshooter,” Retired

https://gadflyblog.com/tag/trafficking

5/5/2018

Introduction

Frontline, the news program for PBS, aired the results of an “Investigation into Human Trafficking into the USA” in April of 2018.. [i] They reported a network of solicitors, smugglers, U.S. Department of Immigration Human Resources and sponsors for these imported youths.  The sponsors turned out to be food producers.  An example of egg producers in the Midwest, where a million eggs are produced daily in egg producing plants using chickens to produce the eggs was shown on film.  These youths were required to work long hours (10 hours per day), lived in substandard housing and somehow were able to attend a school of education supported by the taxpayers of the USA.

Shortage of Farm Workers

When interviewers (people no longer associated with the network) related the shortage of farm workers in the USA and how it was necessary to import foreign labor, in this case from Central America, to meet production demands, it became apparent that the citizens of the USA own this problem.  It’s no surprise that youths are required to supply the necessary labor to farm producers.

This is not a new idea; this writer picked string beans in the fields when he was in elementary school.  In fact, school did not start until after the harvest was reaped!  In fact youth labor was used after school and on weekends and during summer vacation from school.  This writer worked at the motel just across the street cleaning rooms, making beds and maintaining the grounds including the planting of petunias around the large property every year.  In addition, at age twelve, he qualified, age-wise, to have a paper route.  During high school, he worked in the local food market, boning meat to make hamburger, cutting up chickens, manning the meat counter, stocking shelves and sweeping the floor. At least in this case, he was old enough to qualify for minimum wage.

The big difference between this writer’s working as a youth for these service and food providers was that he was still under the control of his parents, who made sure advantage was not taken of him and that he was learning to work for a living.  These youths that are being imported from Central America are here with their parents’ permission, but are not under the supervision or control of their parents and advantage is being taken of them.

Where are the USA’s Youth?

In the USA’s history, youths learned how to work for a living.  They either worked on the family farm, performing functions they were capable of performing, or were, at a minimum, required to perform duties around the family home to earn an allowance.  In this twenty-first century, the USA is teaching their children to learn how to have fun.  They participate in Little League, soccer leagues, hockey leagues, basketball camps, dance school, music school, and  even summer Bible school and summer camps. So when they grow up into adulthood, they have learned to work to have fun in the sun.

America Owns the Problem

The parents of these youths have often surrendered the deed to their home for a loan to pay the smugglers to transport their children to the USA.  When the children have worked in the USA and earned enough money to pay off the loan, then the deed to their property is returned.  Therefore, the parents of these youths are sponsoring their children to go to the USA and work as farm laborers to produce food for the citizens of the USA.  This is the same scenario that the USA parents were performing, but these imported youths are not under the supervision and control of their parents and advantage is being taken of them.

One may ask why these food producers are not checking to be sure they have legal immigrant youths working in their production plants.  The short answer is that they need this labor to produce the food the USA needs and they don’t want to know if these youths are legal immigrants or not.  No knowledge implies they are not responsible.

The immigration authorities of the USA have different views on who is responsible for this situation and have arrested, convicted and imprisoned smugglers in the smuggling network.  But are those in these smuggling networks, who are helping the families living in poverty in Central America, really the guilty parties or are the citizens of the USA the guilty parties?  Advantage is being taken of these farm labor youths because the USA’s youth are not available for this type of work.

Identify the Right Problem to Solve

The first step in any troubleshooting situation is to identify the right problem to solve before attempting to solve the first option to surface.  If the right problem to solve is not where the effort is being made, then the real problem will get worse.  In this case, it looks like there are two or three issues contributing to the problem.  First, the USA’s youth are not available to perform the tasks that the immigrant youths are performing. Second, the food producers need to keep prices for their products down to supply America with food.  Third, the families in Central America are living in poverty and, in all likelihood, this is influenced by the lack of action or priorities by the citizens of the USA.  Have we overdone the child labors laws in the USA that we are now required to import youths from our neighbors in Central America?  What actions to the citizens of the USA need to take to remedy this injustice?  It is this troubleshooter’s experience that “once a problem is solved, the solution is simple,” so let’s not make this too complicated.

Q.E.D.

 

 

[i] KQED, San Francisco, “Investigation into Human Trafficking into the USA”, 04/2018

National Security and Worship

National Security and Worship

“The Top Gun National Crises Troubleshooter”, Retired

https://gadflyblog.com/tag/worship

4/28/2018

 

The purpose of this letter is to keep you in the loop of discussions concerning National Security and Worship.  I am presently in discussions with two groups: The Task Force at a local community church and a young pastor (with a college age son) connected with the Southern Baptist Convention.  In regard to justification for “Worship”, both these groups brought forward I Timothy (Paul passing the Gospel Baton to the much younger Timothy) as justification for “Worship”.

As a National Crises Troubleshooter for the past 55 years (with a short break for college where I graduated at the top of my class and received an offer to come to Livermore at the Lawrence Livermore National Laboratory where I earned the reputation as “The Top Gun National Crises Troubleshooter”), my interests, of course, include national security.  I learned about national security of the Israelite nation while teaching fourth grade Sunday school at TC.  It appears the Israelites had a slight problem understanding the guidelines that were given to them that would have made their new nation successful.  It also appears the Apostles had a slight problem with understanding the instructions that the messenger (the Representative of the Creator of the Universe, or “RoCoU”) they called Jesus gave to them on His exit from this planet Earth.

The Time Line:

  • The Israelites took the Ten Guidelines for a successful nation as literal commands.
  • The Israelites actually made a religion around these Ten Guidelines they took as Ten Commandments.
  • The Israelites were overrun by their neighbors the Babylonians and their elites forced into exile.
  • While in exile, the Israelite elites recorded the first five books of the Old Testament, which included their Ten Commandments.
  • The Israelites were allowed to return to their destroyed homeland and rebuild.
  • The Israelites were conquered by the Romans.
  • The RoCoU came to Earth as a seed in a virgin called Mary.
  • He grew up in this Israelite community now controlled by the Romans.
  • On obtaining the age of about thirty, He took on his assignment to form a task force that would take his teachings throughout the world.
  • After about three years of teaching and forming this task force, He put into action the path to return back to his home somewhere in the universe.
  • To travel through empty space, His body had to change from matter into energy.  This new body form would enable Him to leave this planet and make His way back home. He had to die and resurrect from the dead to change into this new body form of energy. [i]
  • After His resurrection from the dead and before leaving this planet, He instructed his followers to: “Go then, preach the good news about the kingdom.  Do not lay down any rule beyond what I determined for you, nor promulgate law like the lawgivers or else you might be dominated by it.[ii]
  • What this RoCoU, who they called Jesus, taught his followers during his time on Earth would now be called a paradigm shift.  A new paradigm is not dependent on the old or existing paradigm but is entirely a new way of interpreting the exiting data. [iii]
  • The followers of the RoCoU – the Apostles including Paul (Saul) – could not separate this new paradigm from the old or existing paradigm and what they brought to the world was a hybrid of the old and new paradigm.  In other words, they put their own perspective (spin) on the teachings of the RoCoU.
  • The four books that are now available that present the teachings of the RoCoU without adding their own perspective (spin) to the evidence are: Mark, Luke I & II (also known as Acts), the Gospel of Thomas (thought possibly to be one of the “Q” sources, which was a hypothetical first century list of Jesus’s sayings referenced by both Mathew and Luke, (with a wide range of possible dates from the mid-first century to the fourth century), the Gospel of Mary (attributed to the teachings of Mary Magdalene, but probably written in the second century by non-Jews (Gentiles)). [iv]
  • Athanasius, The Archbishop of Alexandria, who sent out an Easter letter all over Egypt in the spring of 367, ordering believers to reject what be called ‘illegitimate and secret books’…. also included a list of twenty-seven books of which he approved, calling them the ‘springs of salvation’.  Strikingly, the twenty-seven books he names in this letter are precisely those that came to constitute the collection we call the ‘New Testament’ for which this letter provides our earliest known list.“
  • “But apparently some monks defied the archbishop’s order to reject all the rest; instead, they saved and protected over fifty texts from their library by sealing them in a heavy jar and burying them away from the monastery walls, under the cliff where they were found sixteen hundred years later[v] (1945).  Is this then a time capsule?
  • The books of I & II Timothy were evidently written by Paul while he was in chains in Rome. The aged Paul is passing the proverbial torch of the Gospel to the much younger Timothy, who Paul was quite familiar with through Timothy’s mother and grandmother.  Paul, in his first letter to Timothy in chapter 2 of the NIV Bible, is telling Timothy how he wants the women of the church to dress, wear their hair and accessories appropriate for “women to perform good deeds, appropriate for women who profess to worship God.”
  • Considering our National Security is at risk I don’t think the mention of “worship” in I Timothy can justify not following the second of the Ten Guidelines: a successful nation should not be overrun by its enemies!
  • In general, Paul’s theology is that Christians sacrificing their bodies to God as workman for God. This is Paul’s new definition of “worship.”
  • Does this new definition of “worship” exempt us from the benefits provided by the second of the Ten Guidelines for a successful nation?  Or does this new definition result in a nation operating at such a low operating efficiency that their national debt becomes unpayable with their GDP?  As our second president John Adams stated, “There are two ways to conquer a nation: war and debt.”
  •  My personal experience is that people who place their life’s priority on worship cause much of the turmoil in the world.  It seems we cannot all agree on who or how we are worshiping and this results in discourse, both nationally and personally.  It looks as though worship creates “sacred cows” that must be protected to the death.
  • My high school girlfriend did not receive any of my letters when I came out west. She was brought up Catholic and I was brought up Lutheran, so those were justifiable reasons for someone who has a priority in protecting their “sacred cow” to intercept my letters.  When I got her on the phone, planning to attend a 35-year class reunion, the first thing I heard was, “You have a lot of explaining to do!”  She had been searching for me for thirty-five years!
  • When my wife of Catholic upbringing reacted to my joining a Baptist Church (a heretic church as she had been taught), she felt a great need to rescue the children from the heretics and filed and proceeded through with a divorce!
  • My daughter, who was twelve at the conclusion of these divorce proceedings, was in the full custody of her mother and no visitation rights to her father.  My daughter never received any of the half dozen expensive music boxes that I brought to her home with her mother for her birthday and Christmas gifts.  Was her mother protecting her children from the heretics?  What kind of worship do these actions represent?  Is the church of your youth a “sacred cow?”
  • Worship does not create cohesion of those who call themselves Christian, but worship causes discourse not only among Christians, but of non-Christians.
  • I have accounts of two Protestant churches that I’ve been involved with during the past thirty-eight years that illustrate the same point as the two above, and that is that worship creates “sacred cows” that must be defended at all cost even to the detriment of church members in good standing.
  • The Protestant churches have a major inertia problem preventing them from moving forward with new enlightenment.  That problem is professional Christians.  Professional Christians must “preach to the choir.”  That is they have to teach the children and adults of the church the same doctrine as their parents and themselves were taught or these church members will vote with their feet and leave that church for another church, taking their church contributions with them.  This leaves the professional Christians without an income.  Paul, as a tent maker, had the right idea. Paul being supported by the members of his churches was a good idea in theory, but not practical in execution.
  • Then there are those who worship God with a different name or in a different tradition than any of the Christian sects.  Some of these extremists are threating our own national security today!
  • Claiming that we can redefine worship to give a different purpose to our lives, as Paul intended, is well and good in theory but, in practice, the same results are obtained as if these were the worship of idols as stated in the second of the Ten Guidelines for a successful nations!
  • Worship is not mentioned or even given and honorable mention in John chapters 14 & 16.  The focus on the departure from this planet Earth is on the RoCoU sending us a personal advocate, counselor, Holy Spirit, etc. to guide us through this life on Earth.

Summary

 

In regard to national security, nothing that man has thought up could surpass this gift of a personal guide through life. There is no possibility that a “sacred cow” could be made of this gift and therefore not a threat to our national security or discourse within our nation among our citizens.

 

Conclusion

In a nutshell, the Ten Guidelines, Ten Codes of Conduct, or, as the religious demand, Ten Commandments recorded in Exodus chapter twenty were given to a new-forming nation that was given land to build their nation.  These Ten Guidelines, when followed, would give this new nation a high economic operating efficiency.   Their national debt would not be skyrocketing out of control, exceeding their capacity to even make payments on the interest to the loans from other countries.  They would be a stronger nation than their competitors’ nations and would not be overrun by their neighbors.  These Ten Guidelines are all about national security and influence to the world.

Q.E.D.

[i] Albert Einstein, “Theory of Relativity”, E=MC2; Energy and Matter are interchangeable

[ii] The Gospel of Mary, “THE NAG HAMMADI SCRIPTURES”, “THE REVISED AND UPDATED TRANSLATION OF SACRED GNOSTIC TEXTS,”, The International Edition, Edited by Marvin Meyer, 2007, P 742

[iii] Thomas Samuel Kuhn ; July 18, 1922 – June 17, 1996),https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paradigm

[iv] Ibid iI, pp133-138, p 739,

[v] Ibid iI, pp6-7

Ten Commandments or Ten Guidelines

Ten Commandments or Ten Guidelines Ver. 1.0.1

“The Top Gun National Crises Troubleshooter”, Retired

https://gadflyblog.com/tag/ten-guidelines/

3/21/2018

Introduction

I have been researching the history of the Israelite Nation and New Testament writings.  As a National Crises Troubleshooter of some forty years, I have found it necessary to identify the problem correctly before attempting to solve a problem. In my research I came across a paper published by Diana Baumrind of Cal Berkeley (http://persweb.wabash.edu/facstaff/hortonr/articles%20for%20class/baumrind.pdf, EBSCO Pub. 2003, PP 890-91/). In this paper, the researchers observed two different styles of parents: authoritarian and authoritative parents.  In short, authoritarian parents issue commands to their children and authoritative parents act as guides to their children. I applied this information to Exodus chapter 20.  I found an authoritative parent.

 

Authoritarian vs Authoritative Perspectives

 

This Israelite nation had been given land to build a new nation. They were, according to my NIV Bible, given the Ten Commandments to follow, supposedly to make them a strong nation, economically efficient and stronger than competing nations.  An authoritative parent would have given Ten Guidelines to follow, and if they followed these Ten Guidelines, they would become a successful nation.  There is a big difference between commands and guidelines – it is a sense of one’s perspective.

 

Commands Vs Guidelines

 

Commands leave no room for the intellect of man; commands are to be followed verbatim.  A guideline leaves room for the intellect of man and makes them responsible for their own success.   Applying this metric to Exodus 20:4-6 gives us a different perspective. “You shall not make for yourself an idol in the form of anything in heaven above or on the earth beneath or in the waters below.  You shall not bow down to them or worship them; for I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God, punishing the children for the sin of the fathers to the third and fourth generation of those who hate me, but showing love to thousands who love me and keep my commandments.”

 


 

The Investigative Process

 

The historians and archeologists have investigated the history of these Israelites.  Historians place the writing of the first five books of the Bible during the time they were exiled in Babylon. Thinking that their nation had come to an end, they were motivated to record their history.  The first responsibility of an unbiased investigator is to “separate the facts from opinion.”  Applying this time-tested investigative protocol, that has been used since the seventieth century, to Exodus 20:4-6 results in some extra add-on supplemental information. A command is just that – a command. It does not include an explanation of the command or any supplemental information – it is just a command. That given, Exodus 20:6 is out for sure, and Exodus 20:5 is questionable as it gives superfluous information and authority.  The word “worship” in Exodus 20:5 does look to have some relevance to the Christian society of the twenty-first century.

 

Worship Centers in the USA and International

 

Did the Christian Church not get the message of Exodus 20:4(5)?  This writer has noticed that children who became adults and were raised by authoritarian parents tend to see things from an authoritarian point of view, which is that instructions are commands. Children who became adults and were raised by authoritative parents tend to see instructions as guidelines.  If these Ten Guidelines were meant to develop a strong nation, economically with a high national operating efficiency, then why do we have so many centers for worship in this nation?  Does not worship cause division rather than cohesion?

 

We’ve got Trouble, Trouble, Trouble, Right Here in the USA, It Starts with “V” and that stands for “Visualization”

We’ve got Trouble, Trouble, Trouble, Right Here in the USA, It Starts with “V” and that stands for “Visualization” Ver. 1.1.0

The Philosopher

The Top Gun National Crises Troubleshooter, Retired

https://gadflyblog.com/tag/visualization

May 7, 2013, Revised 1/24/2018

The Making of a Troubleshooter

I was identified by my sergeant as a troubleshooter when I was 22 years old serving in the United States Air Force in the South Pacific as a flight-line jet engine mechanic.  My sergeant then assigned me to all the troubleshooting jobs and tasked me with giving a second opinion on the troubleshooting that others had performed when there were long wait times for parts.  I seemed to have the ability to visualize the processes that were involved in a system in these jet engines and visualized a solution.  Later in life, I used the same skills as a troubleshooter for the energy and defense departments at the Lawrence Livermore National Laboratory.  It has always intrigued me why I had these skills and others did not.

Inherited Skills

An inheritance from my father and mother was my conclusion for these visualization skills.  My father was a doctor of veterinary medicine and my mother was also a college graduate and never went to bed without a book.  I was the youngest of eight children by my father and the last of four children by my mother.  My father was 51 years old when I was born and my mother was 39 years of age.  This theory gave validity to the idea of skills being inherited from our parents, a phenomenon easily observed in celebrity actors, musicians and public personalities.

DNA Passed Down to the Following Generations

We know that our DNA is passed down to our children and to their children.  We now know that our DNA changes as we learn new skills and knowledge.  The “improved” DNA is passed down through the generations.  Both of my parents were very well experienced in life with much improved DNA to pass down to me.  Thus, the children in these families receive different DNA as DNA is improved with life’s experiences and by learning.

Visualization a Learned Skill through our Environment

Lately I recalled my early childhood experience of listing to stories every Sunday evening, as the neighborhood kids and I were laid out in front of the floor model radio in our middle-class home, listening to “Gunsmoke,” “Johnny Dollar Insurance Investigator” and more.  As we listened to these stories, we visualized them in our minds, and I think this is where this visualization skill was developed.  Was it developed in many others?  Probably, but not many made it to the forefront of technology.  I can recall some of my classmates at about the second grade level talk about watching “Zorro” on the television. This would have been about 1952.  Our family did not have a television until I was in high school so I had more visualization training than some classmates did.  I recall conversations with others who grew up in this generation saying that “Gunsmoke” on the radio was much better than “Gunsmoke” on the television.  The visualizations we created in our own minds were better than what Hollywood had produced.

The High Tech World

I now believe it was this early training in visualization and inherited DNA that enabled me to visualize the processes of systems in the high-tech world as they were applied to physics and mechanical systems in a troubleshooting environment.

The Visualization-Design Process

When I was designing hardware for use in Physics Experiments, I would find a quiet place to sit back and visualize the design in my mind and then go to my Drawing Board and record the design that was in my mind.  This design process is significantly difference than creating a design one line at a time.  One other notable example for using this method of “Visualization-Design Process” was “Nikola Tesla (Serbian Cyrillic: Никола Тесла; 10 July 1856 – 7 January 1943) was a Serbian-American inventor, electrical engineer, mechanical engineer, physicist, and futurist who is best known for his contributions to the design of the modern alternating current (AC) electricity supply system.” [i] It is reported that he would design his systems in his mind before he picked up his pencil and drew the design on paper. [ii] This visualization design process is similar to the experiences reported by Elon Musk CEO of Tesla Motors, commercial space program SpaceX. Freemont, California, a transplant to the USA from South Africa/Canada. [iii]  Is the USA in need of importing our visualization leaders from other countries?

Conclusion

The conclusion of this insight must be obvious. Let’s get back to reading our children stories from books and re-empower the radio stories for our children to listen to so that they can use their own visualization skills to envision the stories.  Let’s lose the television, video movies, video games, YouTube, and any other sources of distraction that gets in the way of visualization training of our children. We will end up with a much empowered group of adults capable of visualization, who are now an almost “lost generation” of visualization specialists.   This may take a few generations as it certainly looks like the passing of DNA from one generation to the next is also involved in the “Visualization Process”.

QED

[i] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nikola_Tesla/

[ii] http://shopPBS.org/, “Tesla, AMERICAN EXPERIENCE”, DVD, March-2017

[iii] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Elon_Musk/

The Path to World Peace

The Path to World Peace ver. 1.2.6

A Case of Mistaken Identity

The Top Gun National Crises Troubleshooter, Retired

https://gadflyblog.com/tag/world-peace/

1/10/2018

Introduction

The path to world peace is much simpler than anyone has imagined. Peace on Earth could come down to one word: “worship” and a case of mistaken identity.

World peace has not been known since the Homo sapiens evolved on the planet and started their expansion across the globe.  Some other homos also evolved – such as the Homo Neanderthal – but the Homo sapiens (wise Homo) dominated the planet Earth.  Conflict often resulted from competition for natural resources or over territorial boundaries.  With the advent of ice ages and low sea levels, the Homo sapiens populated the globe.  Due to different climates, these Homo sapiens evolved to match their environment.  As populations grew and resources became scarce, wars of expansion dominated the globe for centuries.

There is a place in the Mediterranean known as the Fertile Crescent, where agriculture replaced the hunters and gathers and permanent communities and cities began to appear as the ice age receded.  As part of the evolution of man, worship was a key element in almost all of the societies on the planet.  Worship took on different forms, from sun worshipers to human sacrifices to the gods.

The Old Paradigm [i]

According to the history recorded in the Old Testament of the Bible, there was a transition to worshiping one God, the Creator of the Universe (CoU).  This one God guided his chosen group of Homo sapiens to a new way of life, hopefully as an example for others to follow.  This group of Homo sapiens was led though many successes and failures and established themselves as dominant in a new land in the Fertile Crescent.   The CoU gave them ten guidelines to follow that would make them successful in their possession of this new land.  These guidelines, if followed, would produce an economically efficient nation that would prove them superior to those who would dispossess them of this new land.  This new nation then made a new religion of these ten guidelines and they became an economically inefficient nation and were overrun by the neighboring nations.

The Arrival of the Messenger

The Romans made a significant advancement to civilization by constructing roads, which connected the communities they had conquered.   The three factors of agriculture, roads and a society that worshiped one God, the CoU, provided the only place on the planet that the representative of the creator of the universe (RoCoU), a.k.a. Jesus, could visit and have His message spread across the globe. [ii]

The New Paradigm

The old paradigm [iii] consisted of the ten guidelines, along with many man made laws to follow that became stricter as a fix for failures. As time progressed, more laws were made to bring their society into compliance with worshiping their one God.

The RoCoU brought in a new paradigm for the relationship with the CoU.  The major element of this new paradigm is the “Personal Counselor,” a.k.a. The Holy Spirit that He sent to us, after he had returned to his place in the universe, to guide us through life and teach us everything we needed to know.

The Derailment of the New Paradigm

Ironically, this society had evolved and formed a society that worshiped this one God, the CoU. When the RoCoU arrived with His message, He was crucified, then resurrected from the dead, and ascended into heaven (the universe), and then they also began worshiping this RoCoU. They totally missed the second guideline, given in Exodus 20:4 in the Old Testament Bible, as they had made idols of the CoU and the RoCoU.   “You shall not make for yourself an idol in the form of anything in heaven above or on the earth beneath or in the waters below, You shall not bow down to them or worship them; for I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God, punishing the children for the sin of the fathers to the third and fourth generation of those who hate me, but showing love to thousands who love me and keep my Commandments (guidelines).” (NIV)  The big problem with idols is that they become “sacred cows” and must be defended to the death of those worshiping these idols.

The followers (Apostles, Disciples) of this RoCoU, chosen to carry His message to the population of the Earth, were chosen due to their lack of expertise in the old paradigm, and thus were trainable without the need to deprogram their religious expertise (see accounts of Nicodemus’ conversation with the RoCoU in the New Testament Bible, John 3:1-13).  However, the twelve Apostles (Disciples), could not break away from the Old Paradigm to the exclusivity of the New Paradigm, but instead presented the RoCoU as a progression of the Old Paradigm, a case of mistaken identity.

Through the writing of the Gospel and commentaries in the New Testament of the Bible, most of the writers put their own perspective (spin) on the events of the time or used the events and evidence as an argument that the RoCoU was a completion of the promised savior that had been predicted in the Old Paradigm (Prophets can predict that a messenger will come, but they cannot predict the message of the messenger).   The results of this spin on the events and evidence of the time have been passed down through history are a hybrid of the Old Paradigm and the New Paradigm, in effect “a watered-down New Paradigm.” Only the writings of Mark, who wrote as an historian, and Luke, who wrote as a commissioned journalist, are free of the writer’s perspective. Mark evidently wrote hastily in anticipation of being caught up in the turmoil of the persecution of Christians in Rome.  Mark observed some of the protocols of journalism in recording in his journals, as in he answered who, what, and where of the events, but did not include the “why,” which was the spin that other writers put on the events and evidence.  Mark included the good, the bad, and the ugly, which is evidence of his unbiasedness.

The Nag Hammadi Scriptures

The Nag Hammadi Scriptures were found in 1945 outside the Egyptian community of Nag Hammadi not far from a monastery, buried as a time capsule, below the nearby cliffs. These Scriptures (inspired, revered spiritual writings) were discovered by Muhammad Ali, a gather of bird fertilizer beneath the cliffs.  In the time period of the late third century, huge changes occurred in the Christian community. “Irenaeus of Lyon, who wrote around 160 CE, had discussed –and denounced—passages from the Secret Book of John, discovered complete at Nag Hammadi” “Athanasius, the archbishop of Alexandria, who sent out an Easter letter all over Egypt in the spring of 367, ordering believers to reject what he called “illegitimate and secret books.” He included a list of twenty-seven books of which he approved, calling them the ‘springs of salvation.’“ [iv] These are the same twenty-seven books that constitute the New Testament Bible! Scholars think that possibly “The Gospel of Thomas” and the “Gospel of Mary” are the most important and earliest records of the teachings of Jesus, possibly from the middle of the first and the second centuries.[v]  “The Gospel of Thomas” is a list of sayings of Jesus. “The Gospel of Mary (not contained in the Nag Hammadi codices) was probably ascribed to Mary Mandala; it does not seem possible a Jewish author for this gospel.  The ascription may point instead to an early Christian group that appealed to her for apostolic authority, much as other communities in the second century were appealing to Paul, Peter, Thomas, or other apostles to authorize their teaching.” [vi]

At the end of the third century, the libraries of Alexandria and Antioch were destroyed by fire.  Books not on the list put out by Athanasius were disappearing.  The monks at the monastery near the cliffs outside Nag Hammadi could very well be the ones who put these codices in a sealed vase and buried them below the cliffs outside of Nag Hammadi.

The Gospel writers Luke and Matthew apparently referenced document(s) that are referred to as “Q.”  “The Gospel of Thomas” could very well be this document “Q,” or one of the documents in “Q.” They also could have referenced the wittings of Mark. In any case, the Council of Trent canonized the twenty-seven books identified by Athanasius, the archbishop of Alexandria in the mid 1500 CE.

The End Times

The end times were predicted not only by the RoCoU, but by the Apostle John in the book of Revelation.  The RoCoU described the end times as coming like a bolt of lightning. [vii]  John described the end times as a conquering of the Earth with the truth and a new Earth would be born. [viii]

Cosmologists describe the end times as the sun exhausting its supply of hydrogen that is consumed by its nuclear fusion reaction.  This reaction provides an equilibrium force against the force of gravity.  One of two actions follow this burnout: 1) the sun will collapse under the force of gravity into what is known as a black hole; 2) as the sun is collapsing it will rebound into a supernova.  The forces from this supernova will be so violent, that the helium and other metals and compounds will be dissociated into their elements (helium back to hydrogen, etc.), providing the elements that will be attracted by gravity and form new suns and new planets.  The creation process will begin anew and the universe will continue to expand. [ix]

What will become of planet Earth is up to speculation.  One possibility is that Jupiter, a large gas planet of mostly hydrogen, will attract these new free hydrogen molecules through the force of gravity and a nuclear fusion reaction will be ignited, turning Jupiter into a new sun.  This idea is totally speculative, and open to anyone’s imagination.

The Apostle John, in his book of Revelation, thinks a new Earth will be born and a New Jerusalem with all of the latest in trimmings, will descend from the heavens and life on this new Earth, for those who were judged according to what they had done and whose names are in the Book of Life, will have no more death or mourning or crying or pain. [x]

The book of Revelation is best understood when understanding that symbolism was used to convey more information than could be conveyed by words. [xi]  Viewing this New Jerusalem as a symbol for the New Earth, could give us a view of the New Earth.

Conclusion

  • To repeat: the major focus of the new Paradigm is the “Personal Counselor”, a.k.a. The Holy Spirit that was sent to us by the RoCoU to guide us through life and teach us everything we need to know. [xii] This is the New Paradigm shift and is exclusive of the Old Paradigm, and not a progression of the Old Paradigm. Thus, the path to world peace is this simple: just listen for this counselor and He will find you, guide you and teach you. 
  • Do not make yourself an idol and worship your idol: not God, Jesus, Allah, Mohamed, Buddha, Confucius; the cross, the Star of David, the Bible, the New Testament, the Quran, or any written works. Anything that will take control of your decision-making, such as alcohol, tobacco, drugs of all kinds, etc. become idols, and addictions become sacred cows and sacred cows need to be defended at all costs until death! Therefore, The Path to World Peace is to eliminate all worship for it is worship that creates sacred cows and causes differences that must be defended. Worship is an artifact of ancient man.  Stay in control of your life by listening to the Personal Counselor that the RoCoU sent to you.

Q.E.D.

Generally speaking, the errors in religion are dangerous; those in philosophy only ridiculous.” David Hume (7 May 1711 – 25 August 1776) was a Scottish philosopher, historian, economist, and essayist, known especially for his philosophical empiricism and skepticism. He is regarded as one of the most important figures in the history of Western philosophy and the Scottish Enlightenment.

A Caveat

Most all of the animal life on earth is in a predator-prey relationship, e.g. everything in the jungle is food for everything in the jungle.  Predator-prey relationships keep the population of both within the available food supply.  The Homo sapiens do not have a natural predator to regulate their population within the boundaries of their food supply. There is or were pandemics that reduced the population of Homo sapiens in great numbers, but we have conquered most of these population regulating devices. Given that populations will increase to the limit of the supply of resources, to maintain the balance of supply and demand of resources, more antibiotic resistant viruses will be present in the future causing pandemics. Combined with wars to reduce the populations of the world, it is probable these two events will continue.

Q.E.D.

 

[i] “A paradigm shift (also radical theory change) a concept identified by the American physicist and philosopher Thomas Kuhn (1922–1996), is a fundamental change in the basic concepts and experimental practices of a scientific discipline. Kuhn contrasted these shifts, which characterize a scientific revolution, to the activity of normal science, which he described as scientific work done within a prevailing framework (or paradigm). In this context, the word “paradigm” is used in its original Greek meaning, as ‘example’.”

 

A Paradigm in the Social Sense:

“In Kuhn’s view, the existence of a single reigning paradigm is characteristic of the natural sciences, while philosophy and much of social science were characterized by a “tradition of claims, counterclaims, and debates over fundamentals.” Others have applied Kuhn’s concept of paradigm shift to the social sciences” (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paradigm_shift/)

 

[ii] The Explorers Task Force, Cedar Grove Community Church, Livermore, California, 2017

[iii] Ibid i

[iv] Marvin Meyer, editor, “The Nag Hammadi Scriptures”, Pub. HarperOne,  2007

[v] ibid

[vi] Karen L. King, “The Nag Hammadi Scriptures”, Pub. HarperOne,  2007,  p739

[vii] The Bible, Luke 17:24

[viii] The Bible, book of Revelation

[ix] Stephen Hawking, “A Brief History of Time”, Pub, Bantam Books, 1996

[x] The Bible, Revelation 20:12-15

[xi] Explores Task Force, Cedar Grove Community Church, Livermore, California, 2017

[xii] The New Testament Bible NIV, John 14:16-26, 16:12-15

 

Addendum

In the Gospel of Mary, the Savior (RoCoU) taught, in the end time, that matter would return to its origin.  Albert Einstein’s Theory of Relativity is supportive of this process.  Energy (E) and matter (M) are related to the speed of light (C) in E=MC2.  Energy and matter are interchangeable; energy becomes matter and matter becomes energy.  As a particle of matter is accelerated close to the speed of light, the particle increases in mass and losses energy thus the particle slows down.  Light from the sun is corpuscular and travels as a wave. When the sun’s rays impinge on matter on Earth, the corpuscular matter is converted into energy, giving life to everything on Earth in one form or another.

The RoCoU

The RoCoU came to Earth, seen as just a speck of dust on the viewer’s screen from the camera on a Space Probe as it was leaving our Solar System, as a seed implanted into a virgin named Mary.  He grew up in this special group of Homo sapiens who recognized one God and became a teacher.  He selected a small group of members of this society (Apostles) and taught them how to live life on this planet Earth and how to communicate with the CoU to get all their material needs met.  He asked these Apostles to carry His message to the rest of the world.  His mission accomplished, he must now return to His home in the universe.  Therefore, He must change His form into a form compatible with travel through the universe, as He cannot do this in human form, He must die and resurrect in a new form capable to travel faster than the speed of light to His home in the universe.

For many years after the airplane was invented and outfitted with jet engines and rockets the popular thought was that the sound barrier could not be broken.  An airplane or rocket could not travel faster than the speed of sound.  On October 14, 1947, Charles Edward (Chuck) Yeager, a test pilot for the U.S. Air Force, broke the sound barrier (Mach 1) in a Bell X-1, a rocket powered aircraft.  Could the same thing be true of the speed of light?  Can the barrier of the speed of light be broken by material converting to energy?  This is certainly food for thought for future generations.

 

The Bullies

The Bullies ver. 2.0.2

The Top Gun National Crises Troubleshooter, Retired

https://gadflyblog.com/tag/bullies

12/17/2017

Introduction

Bullies come in different shapes and sizes and from different families of origin, with and without siblings.   There are three basic types of bullies: physical bullies, verbal bullies and in-your-face bullies.  There are several well-known tactics to deal with these bullies.  These bullies think that their behavior is normal, as many have no doubt learned to be a bully by the time they were six years old. [i]

Physical Bullies

Physical bullies are those children or young adults you meet on the way to school.  This was prevalent at least during the days when we allowed our children to walk to school – a rare occasion in today’s world – as some of these physical bullies were allowed to grow up without correction or, in other circumstances, in unsupervised areas or even from supervision itself!  The standard format to take care of these young bullies was to show them that you would not be bullied.

Case Study I

This writer was serving our country in support of LBJ’s War in Vietnam, and was living in a barracks known as “chicken coops,” as the barracks were screened in from top to bottom, with a wall in between.  They remained this way all year round.  Between two chicken coops was the latrine with showers.  One evening I was walking from the latrine dressed only in my shorts and wearing thongs.  Two young men approached me at the entrance.  One of them said to the other, “Watch this for how to start a fight.”  I was standing as in parade rest with my hands free.  I have seen this approach before in a scene from the film, “Butch Cassidy and the Sundance Kid,” where Butch Cassidy, played by Paul Newman, approached one of his underlings who was challenging his authority.  Butch let him have it with a kick to his manhood.  As this young man came at me intending to do the same, unaware of my fast reflexes, I sidestepped his kick and got my right arm under his right arm, thrust it upwards and came down with an elbow to his kidney zone.  He ended up sprawled out next to the water cooler. I kicked off my thongs and took up the karate ready-to-fight position. His buddy said something to him to call him off and he said, “We’re done.”  I put my thongs back on and returned to my bunk never to see this young man again.

 Case Study II   

My son reported that a physical bully was making it difficult for him to get to his grade school, which was no more than a walk of four blocks. At this time, I had physical custody of my son and also had two roommates who were brothers. Both of these brothers held black belts in karate.  I asked one of these brothers to teach my son enough karate to take care of this bully that was making it difficult for him to walk to school.  After several sessions with this black belt karate instructor, my son made his karate knowledge known to this physical bully.  He never had a problem walking to school after this one exhibition.

Case Study III

In high school a lastborn in his family (another birth-order to find bullies) would see me coming down the hallway carrying a stack of books in front of me.  He took advantage of this situation and slapped the books out of my hands to the floor!  On another occasion when we were taking an unsupervised exam, I passed in front of him with my paper in my hand.  He again slapped my paper to the floor.  I reached down with my left hand and picked up the paper.  With my right hand I backhanded him and knocked him to the floor.  He got up and attacked me with both his fists flying.  Having performed research into boxing myself, I deflected all of his attempts to land a punch until we hear the supervising teacher returning. Later when I was in the gym putting on my basketball shoes, he approached me and apologized for his behavior.

Although the Representative of the Creator, a.k.a. Jesus, taught us to turn the other cheek when hit, he was encompassed in an authoritarian society and to return a punch would certainly result in death.  In this situation it is better to turn the other cheek and show them that you can take their bullying.

Verbal Bullies

There are four categories of verbal bullies. The first category includes those that grow up with a same-sex sibling within a couple of years of their age.  If they grew up bullying this younger sibling, then that personality trait would likely have become dominate by the time they were six years old. [ii]  If they had grown up with more knowledgeable parents, (authoritative rather than authoritarian)[iii]  they may have grown up looking after their younger sibling. But in any case, they certainly would have been more assertive than their younger sibling. In the workforce these will be the “take charge” people and they will want the work done “their way.”   The second category includes those that grow up being mostly exposed to older adults such as the only child or a distant lastborn child.  There are two categories of only children: the pure only child and the functional only child. Functional only children grew up as only children for various reasons (e.g. separation of family of origin, death of a sibling, more than six years between them and the next same sex sibling).[iv] Several of our U.S. presidents fall into the category of functional only children (Andrew Jackson, Abraham Lincoln, Herbert Hoover, Theodore Roosevelt, Franklin D. Roosevelt, Gerald R. Ford, Bill Clinton, George W. Bush and Barack Obama). [v] Vladimir Vladimirovich Putin, the Russian president, is an example of a true only child. Even the little prince or princess that gets treated as special can develop this “only child syndrome.” For example, Joseph in the Old Testament was treated as special and even given a special coat to wear; he was sold off as a slave by his siblings but ended up the second in command in Egypt.  3) The third category includes those that demonstrate verbal attacking rants (VARs) often right in your face.  The origin of this behavior is varied; sometimes it is an inherited trait or it could be the result of a medical surgery procedure.  4) The fourth category is the highly educated bully (I know more than you bully).  These are probably the most difficult bullies to deal with as they are probably also either a firstborn or only child or a younger sibling following their role model older sibling.

The older sibling, with a near younger same-sex sibling, that turned out to be a bully will have a communication style of “I win, you lose.”  The only child often possesses a communication style of “in your face” or “I want this” or I want that.” The “I” word will come up often, as in “look what I have accomplished,”  “Look what I did,” etc.  A functional only child may even be made to feel more important if they experienced the death of a sibling that was close in age to them, as they may now have been treated as extra special by their parents and were given anything they wanted and more. A characterization of the only child syndrome by my late sister with an only child son-in-law was, “They are good people, and they just need to be mellowed a bit.” This was also characterized by my niece as, “It’s my way or the highway.” According to Dr. Kevin Leman, “They know they are right, even when they are not.” [vi] And in Dr. Leman’s “The Birth Order Book,” he writes, “Show me a young person that prefers to be around older people than people their own age, and I will show you an only child.”[vii]

Case Study IV

A few decades ago, I was being introduced to my new research partner; she was being introduced to me by the lead program manager in my laboratory.  She was going to design the experiments and I was going to perform the experiments. The first words from her were, “I want this over there and I want that over here.”  She gave these orders in such a strong manner that she blew me off my chair!  I picked myself up and stated, “I don’t want that over there and I don’t want this over here. I want that over there and I want this over here!”  She looked at the program manager with an open mouth.  The program manager stated, “See, he can do that too.”

This was not an unusual confrontation at this national employer, as there was a filter on the front door that only allowed “The Best of the Best” to enter though these doors.  With that type of filter on the front door in an academically-minded institution, the ones who meet these qualities will most likely be the firstborn in their family of origin or an only child, as these are the typical academic achievers. [viii]  Therefore, this institution had continuous contracts with professional communication instructors, and when it was needed, we got sent to rehabilitation to produce teamwork communication, a.k.a., assertive win-win communication skills.

This young lady, who graduated at the top of her class at MIT and was the only child of two PhD’s, certainly met the requirements to be the best of the best to enter through the front door.  I myself had been pulled aside by my manager of the time and told to “lighten up.” I received my invitation to attend these special teamwork communication classes. I, too, had graduated at the top of my college graduating class and both of my parents were college graduates and my father was a doctor of veterinary medicine. For my generation, I represented less than three percent of the US population in the families of origin.

Although I was the youngest of eight and my father was fifty-one years old and my mother thirty-nine years old when I was born, I still qualified as a functional only child. Like many first generation middle class parents, they had more children than they could send to college.  When I was still on my tricycle, three of my sisters came home from out-of-state college to hear that their college funding was being terminated and that it was more important for males to go to college than females, who in those days’ women went to college to marry a college man.  In my last semester in high school, my father died and it was determined by my five sisters that I was too stupid to go to college.

Good things often result from not-so-good circumstances.  I ended up in the U.S. Air Force in LBJ’s War in South Vietnam.  My sergeant recognized that I had natural troubleshooting abilities as a jet engine mechanic on the flight line, which was something I would never have recognized myself.  After my tour of active duty ended, I enrolled in a technical college. My Physical Metallurgy professor employed me to help him with a research project one summer.  I brought his project to a successful conclusion; He thought I was the most advanced student to ever come through that college.  When brought on staff at this national research institution, I brought several programs that were in trouble across the finish line successfully. When this young lady from MIT and I joined a special task force to troubleshoot a major issue for the Department of Defense, where she was made taskforce leader, and I was the troubleshooter, we worked well as a team. When I got my insight to the cause of the problem and put this insight up to the program leader, another experimental group verified the information and the task-force was disbanded.  When this young lady from MIT and now Stanford with a Master’s degree left this institution to do more domestic projects, she identified me as the “nation’s secret weapon,” and I accepted this status as “The Top Gun National Crises Troubleshooter.

The Importance of having Professional Communicators on Contract

This case study is presented to show how valuable professional interpersonal communication instructors are to an organization.  This writer has noticed that some interpersonal communication seminars in churches tend to lean on theology or philosophy to teach interpersonal communications.  Some colleges teach communications classes as a class in human resources, where the focus is on “The Myers–Briggs Type Indicator,” (MBTI) where one can find out their strengths to succeed in a profession and what personalities make up an effective team. In fact, MBTI was first formulated to place women in the workforce effectively during World War II. It now finds wide use in many areas.  Dr. Kevin Leman is internationally known as the guru of Adlerian Psychology that focuses on birth order in the family of origin and the skill packages that are developed from this learned environmental knowledge.   Instructors like Manuel J. Smith, Ph.D. promote hands-on techniques to be used during a conversation. He states, “It is not how you became what you are that’s important, but what works.”  His techniques of what works with bullies and manipulators include: “Broken Record,” “Fogging,” “Free Information,” “Negative Assertion,” “Negative Inquiry,” “Self-Disclosure,” and “Workable Compromise.”[ix]

Interpersonal Communication Techniques Explained [x]

Broken Record: A skill, by calm repetition – saying what you want over and over again – teaches persistence without you having to rehearse arguments or angry feelings beforehand, in order to be ‘up’ for dealing with others.

Effect: Allows you to feel comfortable in ignoring manipulative verbal side traps, argumentative baiting, irrelevant logic, while sticking to your desired point.

Fogging: A skill that teaches acceptance of manipulative criticism by calmly acknowledging to your critic the probability that there may be some truth in what he says, yet allows you to remain your own judge of what you do.

Example: That’s true. I …”

Effect: Allows you to receive criticism comfortably without becoming anxious or defensive, while giving no reward to those using manipulative criticism.  

Free Information: A skill that teaches the recognition of simple cues given by a social partner in everyday conversation to indicate what is interesting or important to that person.

Effect: Allows you to feel less shy in entering into conversation while at the same time prompting social partners to talk more easily about themselves. 

Negative Assertion: A skill that teaches acceptance of your errors and faults (without having to apologize) by strongly and sympathetically agreeing with hostile or constructive criticism of your negative qualities.

Effect: Allows you to look more comfortably at negatives in your own behavior or personality without feeling defensive and anxious, resorting to denial of real error, while at the same time reducing our critic’s anger or hostility.

Example: “You didn’t do too well in (criticism).” “You’re right. I wasn’t too smart in the way I handled that, was I?” “That was a dumb thing for me to do.” Use this technique in non-legal matters ONLY!

Negative Inquiry: A skill that teaches the active prompting of criticism in order to use the information (if helpful) or exhaust it (if manipulative), while prompting your critic to be more assertive and less dependent on manipulative ploys.

 Effect: Allows you more comfortably to seek out criticism about yourself in close relationships while prompting the other person to express honest negative feelings and improve communication.

Example: “What was it about … that is wrong?”  “What was it that I … that was wrong?”

Self-Disclosure: A skill that teaches the acceptance and initiation of discussion of both the positive and negative aspects of your personality, behavior, lifestyle intelligence, to enhance social communication and reduce manipulation.

Effect: Allows you comfortably to disclose aspects of yourself and your life that previously caused feelings of ignorance, anxiety, or guilt.” 

Example: “I like …” or “I don’t like …”, etc.

Workable compromise: In using your verbal assertive skills, it is practical, whenever you feel that your self-respect is not in question, to offer a workable compromise to the other person.  You can always bargain for your material goals unless the compromise affects your personal feelings of self-respect.  If the end goal involves a matter of your self-worth, however, there can be no compromise.

The Bully Solution 

The solution to the physical bully has not changed over the centuries, although the Representative of the Creator of the Universe, a.k.a. Jesus, said to turn the other cheek. The standard action for a physical bully is to let them know that you are not going to be bullied (an option more applicable in a “Free Society”). The bully probably does not even know that they are a bully as they have been this way all of their lives. For them, this is normal; they just need a notification of being a bully.

There are a few solutions to a verbal bully. If it is attacking criticism or rebuttal, this can be neutralized and made beneficial by a technique call “fogging.” [xi]  Fogging is built on the metaphor that receiving criticism is like a stone that is thrown at a brick wall. The stone will rebound and the criticizer can pick the stone up again and throw it at the target.  However, if the target acts like a fog bank, the stone disappears harmlessly into the fog and defenses are mitigated.

The Rants

The assertive stance is a way of allowing their rant to continue unhindered.  This technique is useful for the in-your-face rants.  The assertive stance is feet spread at shoulder width, hands clasped behind the back and head and eyes straight ahead (the “Parade Rest” position). This allows the target of the rant to avoid getting involved with the rant.  For those who have formed a habit of rants, especially if it is over a phone, a more active tactic is required in response.  In this case, the target simply addresses the rants at the same time as they are coming until the rant ceases.  Then a question can be put forward such as “Now what did you want to talk about?”

Case Study V

It has been observed in females younger than middle aged that may have had the major female surgery to remove their reproductive system tend to exhibit this in-your-face rant (rights to privacy prevent confirming this data). I first noticed this rant behavior within a week of my wife’s major surgery.  Not only face to face or nose to nose, but over the telephone as well.  I once received one of these calls while in the kitchen with two of my housemates.  I held the phone out at arm’s length.  Both of my housemates agreed that no one should have to listen to this.  After about ten years of these phone calls, I received one while in my lab at work.  One of my coworkers suggested, after a similar incident involving a “Type A” project leader (people who are known to “unload on someone”), to give it back to them as it is being dished out.  On this occasion I tried out this suggestion with my now ex-wife and fed information back as fast as I was receiving this attacking rant.  She finally stopped the rant and I asked, “What was it that you wanted to talk about?” I took the position that one cannot go out and find a new mother for their children, and the situation had to be handled the best that it could be handled.

On the wife’s first exploratory visit to the surgeon, he told her that a number of women who had this operation ended up divorced.  When she brought this information home we both agreed that divorce was not an issue about which  we needed to be concerned.  Within six months of this major surgery, she filed for a divorce.  Now, decades later, our son is functioning as her significant other, as it seems that this is the only relationship she is able to maintain with her tendency to go into the attacking rant mode.  I have also met some young, middle aged, sons who seem to be functioning as their mother’s significant other.  How wide spread is this phenomenon?

Case Study VI 

I was on a troubleshooting assignment at a manufacturing plant on the east coast, trying to solve the production problems with a state-of-the-art high field superconductor.  This was not a large facility and the offices were adjacent to the production line.  They had what they called their “meter-high quality control officer.” She actually was about a meter (three feet) tall.  It didn’t seem to matter what one said to her to put her into attacking rant mode.  My office was nearest the production line and I could hear the general manager trying to calm her down in a distant closed office.  He was receiving what can only be considered as extreme abuse from this meter-high QC officer.  It took about a year and a half to solve the production problems and bring this project to a successful conclusion.  On returning back to the west coast, this general manager, who was a personal friend of our program manager (both were Englishmen in the same vocation), visited us in California. He had been dismissed as the general manager and he had come to realize that his brain had been significantly abused and that he was no longer able to make good executive decisions, bringing to the point that one must either control these verbal abusers or face serious brain damage from their attacking rants.

Sexual Assault by a Bully

In the present age, we are seeing more reports of sexual misconduct by bullies.  It is not surprising to see some of these men, who have employment power over women and are not physically or mentally attractive to women, ending up using their employment power to sexually abuse their subordinates.  This abuse may have its origin in an over-controlled society. Brothels have been in use for centuries to meet the needs of men and women who otherwise could not find a sexual partner.  Brothels that are well-regulated by health authorities are still functioning in parts of the U.S.  Regulated brothels would reduce or eliminate underage prostitution, rape, assaults against women and human trafficking.  Brothels offered up as a career option instead of a vice would certainly be going against the grain in a religiously controlled society. Both options of career or vice have their positives and negatives.

Reflective or Active Listening

Reflective or active listening serves a couple of purposes.  1) The target summarizes or paraphrases what the verbal bully is saying and confirms their complaint or position.  2) The target is given time to think of their response.  This technique is something like counting to ten before returning the punch!  3) If the verbal bully is attacking with a question, repeat or rephrase the question, and then answer the question.  This technique also allows the target time to think before responding. This technique is sometimes used by politicians, only they may even go so far as to change the question to one they can answer!  Q.E.D.  

[i] Dr. Kevin Leman, “The New Birth Oder Book”, 2015. http://drleman.com/

[ii] ibid

[iii] Diana Baumrind, http://persweb.wabash.edu/facstaff/hortonr/articles%20for%20class/baumrind.pdf, EBSCO Pub. 2003, PP 890-91

[iv] Ibid (i)

[v] http://deadpresidents.tumblr.com/post/15457991558/which-presidents-were-the-oldest-child-the/

[vi] Dr. Kevin Leman, “The First Born Advantage”, pub. Revell, 2008, p69

[vii] Dr. Kevin Leman, “The Birth Order Book”, pub. Revell, 2015, pp131-148

[viii] Ibid (i)

[ix] Manuel J. Smith, PhD., “When I say no, I feel guilty”, Bantam Books, 1975, pp 323-324

[x] Ibid

[xi] Ibid p323, pp 104-115

An Open Letter to Hillary Clinton Presidential Candidate

An Open Letter to Hillary Clinton Presidential Candidate

By

The Top Gun National Crises Troubleshooter, Retired

https://gadflyblog.com/tag/Hillary

5/30/2016

The Presidential Election of 2016 is over and a new president has been elected.  Fortunately for the nation it was not another “Firstborn President”, whom have the reputation of getting the nation involved in wars and conflicts of all kinds with their “Must Win” attitudes.  Check the data yourself on “Birth-Order, Presidents and Wars” on the internet. [i]  You will also find in this data that “Middleborn Presidents” have gotten the nation out of more wars and conflicts than any of the other “Birth-Order Presidents” .  Some of these recent “middle-born presidents” were D. Eisenhower, R. Nixon, J. F. Kennedy, R. Reagan and G.H.W. Bush.

But you may have inadvertently found a new way to elect our president!  Your vocal and public negative opinion of the leader of Russia may have inspired them to work against you in this election through  negative propaganda against your presidency!  The old saw that “People who live in glass houses should not throw rocks”, applies.   It appears that anyone with a vote wants something for their vote.  You promised more government entitlements for votes and citizens seem to want more government entitlements, so you got their votes.  Before we, as a nation, empowered all the citizens with a vote for the president, this assignment was to the state legislatures, thus “The Electoral College”.   But the state legislatures also wanted something for their votes!  Now with your help we have international leaders casting their vote for our president and I suppose they want something for their votes!  Could it be they have chosen the person that they want to negotiate terms of agreements with?

True “Middleborn Children” grow up in the precarious position between two same sex siblings and must learn how to negotiate for their “Space”.  [ii]  We now have a “Middleborn President” and we are moving forward in a negotiating manner.  In the 90’s I sent you kudos for your example of “Keeping the family fortune intact”, the wives responsibility [iii].  A job well done.  Now as General Patton stated on his way to the Battle of the Bulge, “We are moving forward, either help or get out of the way”.

[i] http://gadfly.wordpress.com/tag/president’s-styles/

[ii] http://drleman.com/

[iii], My mother

Justice and the Jury System

Justice and the Jury System ver. 1.0.2

“The Top Gun National Crises Troubleshooter”, Retired

https://gadflyblog.com/tag/justice/

10/29/2017

Introduction

The key to preventing a “Hung Jury” is to vote “Undecided” when the Jury wants a quick vote without examining the evidence and recreating the scenario of interest. A “Not Guilty” or “Guilty” Vote before this in-depth examination of the scenario of interest could very well result in a “Hung Jury”.  When it’s “Guilty” against the “Not Guilty”; I’m right you’re wrong, this discussion can the result in a “Hung Jury”.  It is best to continue with discussions with votes of “Undecided” until a consensus is attained.

In the movie “Twelve Angry Men” the undecided voter, Henry Fonda, voted “Not Guilty” when what he actually wanted was a discussion of the evidence and the scenario of interest.  By voting “Not Guilty” this could have ended up as a “Hung Jury”.  But this writer thinks broadcasting this movie is a good idea, it could help future Juries.

Case Study

 This writer was on a jury in 1997; it was a week-long affair with several idiosyncrasies.  In essence a young male, early twenty, a recent immigrant from one of the war-torn countries where the US had been involved in a major conflict in South East Asia. There were two ethnic “Gangs” in close proximity; South East Asian and Hispanic.

On this occasion a minor of Hispanic origin bought a six pack of beer and went to the nearby lake and consumed an unknown quality of the beer.  He may have had a companion, he may have stashed the leftover beer or he may have consumed the six-pack by himself.  No toxicology report was offered or asked for by the Jury.

In short, the South East Asian Gang (SEAG), who had been playing basketball in a nearby outdoor court, had an altercation with this young, intoxicated Hispanic male on his way home from the lake. At some distance from the SEAG this young man flashed his “Walkman” to the SEAG to make them think he had a gun.

He must have been successful as the SEAG returned to their homes and armed themselves for a Rumble.  The SEAG returned to the neighborhood of the Hispanics.  The young Hispanic with friends went to his home, walking in front of his father, who was consumed with watching daytime TV, and armed themselves with the stash of Fighting Knives (LARGE Double bladed, illegal knives) that the young Hispanic kept in his bedroom.   They passed by in front of his father, watching TV, and proceeded to confront the SEAG at the nearby corner.

The Hispanic Gang (HG) approached the SEAG with open fighting knives hidden behind their backs.  The scene quickly turned into hand to hand combat.  The young Hispanic was chasing the early twenties new immigrant with his large Butterfly Knife. The new immigrant pulled his gun from his waistband and fired about three rounds behind him as he was running.  Evidently the first round hit the young Hispanic in the heart and he was dead before he hit the ground.  The new immigrant tossed the gun in the estuary.

The DA had charged the new immigrant with Murder I, lesser charges were made available to the Jury: Murder II, Man Slaughter or Unintentional Manslaughter. The Judge ruled that the defendant was in possession of an illegal fire arm, no concealed weapon permit, and therefore could not plead “Self-Defense”.

By Friday afternoon the Jury was released to the Jury Room.  A Foreman of the Jury was selected and a blind vote was asked of the members of the Jury.  The count was eleven “Guilty” and one “Undecided”.  Jurors made arguments for their vote. A few more blind votes were taken with the same results (11-1).  The undecided voter was asked to disclose their identity, this writer did.  More arguments took place and more calls for a vote were taken.

One of the female Jurors (Teacher), familiar with this writer’s status at a local institution and therefore was like all the other people she had experienced from this institution to which she had a negative opinion.  In fact previously in the Jury Room she spoke negatively about this writer reading a physics book on acoustic guitars. After that altercation this writer started reading Plato’s “Republic”.  She now accused this writer of being prejudiced in favor of the defendant and he should be removed from the Jury Panel.

During the initial interviews, with the DA and defending counsel, of the Jurors this writer had to confess that he was once a gang leader during his high school days; it was the fad of the time (Westside Story).  The DA asked this writer if he was a minor and he confirmed that he was at this time.  The DA asked him what we did after high school and he told him that most of us joined a larger gang and we had a rumble with another large gang. The DA asked this writer for the names of these gangs and he stated the US Army, US Marines and he had joined the US Air Force.  His assignment was to send in helicopters and aluminum caskets into South Vietnam and send the fallen back to their families for burial.  This Teacher only heard the gang part, of this interview, as the defendant was also identified as a gang leader.

Gangs are a whole new subject to cover, mostly misunderstood by the general public.  From a scientific perspective there is a basic human need to belong to a small group that functions as a family.  When these young people find themselves without family, they choose to form these artificial families.  The causes of their loss of family are numerous and include dysfunctional families (alcoholic, drug addicted or absent fathers), new immigrants from foreign countries often form ethnic specific gangs.  These gangs are not necessarily a negative social group that is going to exhibit violent behavior although their natural instincts are to protect their home territory.  This behavior is common among many mammals of the world.

The Chairman of the Jury asked this writer what he had to say about these charges of being prejudiced, he stated that he didn’t think he was the one with a problem.  The rest of the Jury Panel backed him up on this and this Teacher was now pleading with the Jury to not remover her form the Jury and that she would no longer be prejudiced and would go along with what the Jury had decided.  This made the Jury dysfunctional as this non-proactive stance meant that in function the Jury now had only eleven voting members.  However, it was late on a Friday afternoon and nobody wanted to have to come back on Monday to finish up this public service.   This Jury decided to proceed to a consensus vote.

One of the Jury (twelve college graduates some with much training in making expeditious decisions), asked this writer to take the floor and lead them through his view of the scenario that had taken place. As he progressed to reconstruct the events that led up to this tragedy, others joined in with their observations as well. When he had finished we discussed our options and had verbally agreed to the charge of “Unintentional Manslaughter”.  A Vote was taken and this charge was unanimous.  Maybe because it was late on a Friday afternoon and nobody wanted to come back on Monday, they had a living to make and were not being compensated for Jury duty (not much), except for this writer and maybe a few others, and this was the least offensive charge that could be found for this defendant, which given the extenuating circumstances, was appropriate for this defendant.

The Jury assembled in the court room and the Foreman of the Jury reported the verdict.  The defending attorney was heard say to the defendant that he had been given a gift. Some members of the Jury met with the family of the young Hispanic boy and they felt like we did our duty in convicting the person who took their son’s life.

Who or Whom is really the Guilty Parties

But who or whom are really the guilty parties to this tragedy?  Is it the one who sold a six-pack of beer to this under age young man? Is it the father who was more interested in watching daytime TV than supervising his minor aged son and knowing that his son was hiding an arsenal of fighting knives in his bedroom?  Could it be our Immigration Department and their lack of indoctrination of the laws of our society to these new immigrates?  Could it be the lack of training of Jurors to conduct these meeting and arrive at a just verdict?  It is this writer’s opinion that there are many people and institutions responsible for these tragic events.

A Quick Solution

One Band-Aid approach would be to strengthen our parole boards with knowledgeable, unprejudiced members who are compensated sufficiently for them to take as much time as necessary to see that Justices is the result of our Justice and Jury System.  It could be that the Parole Boards are the ones who can ensure that the courts and Juries are handing down “Just Convictions”.

Q.E.D.

 

The Rescuer Complex

The Rescuer Complex ver. 1.0.4

“The Top Gun National Troubleshooter,” Retired

http:gadflyblog.com/tag/rescuer/

9/29/2017

Introduction

Much information has been written on the subject of “The Rescuer Complex.”  On subjects such as “Adult Children of Alcoholics,[i] it has been observed that the rescue complex is inevitable in children that grow up in alcoholic homes or drug addiction homes.  This observation has been expanded to include “very religious parents.”  Transactional analysis [ii] describes the rescuer complex as one who continually rescues a victim from an aggressor.  In transactional analysis, the aggressor is from the victim’s and rescuer’s perspective.   The rescuer complex can be directed toward the opposite sex.  This behavior has been observed of a teaching pastor in a local church who constantly came to the rescue of women in his church.   Unfortunately, the supposed aggressor now becomes the victim of the aggressive rescuer.  Thus this cycle of aggressor, victim and rescuer continues in a cycle.  The supposed aggressor is now the victim, and the rescuer the new aggressor, so who is going to rescue the new victim from the new aggressor?  The new rescuer is usually called “the organization,” as by now this is an organizational issue.

The Authoritarian and the Authoritative Parent

On reading Dr. Kevin Leman’s latest book “The Birth Order Book: Why You Are the Way You Are,” [iii]  this writer noticed his definition of authoritarian and the authoritative parent, and the different results produced in the children who grow up in these two very different homes.  Other authors have denoted alcoholic parents or very religious parents as having an aggressive communication style; [iv]  Dr. Leman now describes them as authoritarian parents.  Authoritarian parents can also be denoted as parents who have an “I win, you lose” communication style.

A definition of authoritarian and authoritative parents was reported in study by The University of California, Berkeley in 2003: [v]

Authoritarian

“The authoritative parent attempts to shape, control and evaluate the behavior and attitudes of the child in accordance with a standard of conduct, usually an absolute standard, theologically motivated and formulated by a higher authority.  …………”

Authoritative

“The authoritative parent attempts to direct the child’s activities in a rational, issue-orientated manner.  She encourages verbal give and take, shares with the child the reasoning behind her policies, and solicits his objections when he refuses to conform. ………..”

Conclusion

This writer was identified, by his sergeant of flight-line jet engine mechanics in support of LBJ’s war in Vietnam, as a natural born troubleshooter.  That was over fifty troubleshooting years ago and what has been indelibly etched in this mind is this: “Before attempting to solve a problem, the problem must first be properly defined; failure to properly define the problem before solving the problem and taking action on the resulting solution will result in a bigger problem to solve.”   Having properly defining a problem the solution will be obvious.”

The contrast between these two definitions – authoritarian and authoritative parents – presents a very well-defined problem to the origin of The Rescuer Complex being the direct result of a parent’s authoritarian, aggressive, “I win, you lose” communication style, regardless of the type of dysfunctional family of origin, be it alcohol or drug addiction, et al.

Now that the problem has been properly defined the solution should be obvious.  Is it any wonder why many people with this “Rescue Complex” find themselves in a church?  The main mission of the Christian Church is to “Rescue (Save) People”.  Finding the solution to their “Rescue Complex” is the responsibility of the individual.

Q.E.D.

[i] Janet G. Woititz , “Adult Children of Alcoholics”, Health Communication Inc. , Nov 1, 1990

[ii] Eric Berne, “Games People Play”: The Basic Handbook of Transactional Analysis., Aug 27, 1996

[iii] Dr. Kevin Leman “The Birth Order book”, Revell pub., 2009

[iv] Ibid i

[v] Diana Baumrind, http://persweb.wabash.edu/facstaff/hortonr/articles%20for%20class/baumrind.pdf, EBSCO Pub. 2003, PP 890-91