Dinah, Genesis 34

Dinah, Genesis 34 ver. 1.0.2

Not Proactive, Not Assertive, Ignorant of Hormones

11/2/2018

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Introduction

 Genesis 34 is a lesson in the consequences of being ignorant of the hormones that the Creator of the Universe planted in each and every one of us – being ignorant of the human benefits of hybridization.  The resulting consequences of non-proactive, non-assertive communications to others, specifically to those with authority over the situation at hand, can be devastating.

The Setting

Jacob, the son of Isaac, deceived his father into giving him the birthrights of his twin brother Esau.  His brother had sworn to kill him for this deception.  Jacob’s mother, Rebecca, the sister of Laban, had told Jacob to go to her brother’s home in Padden Aram and find a wife from his own family’s line. Jacob met Rachel, the younger sister of Leah.  It was love at first sight for Jacob.  Jacob had asked Laban to give him Rachel for his wife.

The following statements are not in the Bible, but probably should have been and probably would have if the writers were knowledgeable of Adlerian Psychology. Jacob was raised in his family as the younger brother of his twin brother Esau.  Rachel was raised as the younger sister of Leah.

When choosing a mate, one should consider matching skill packages. [i]  Each of us have a skill package that consists of the innate, knowledge of the hybridized DNA of our parents and the environmental knowledge we gained from growing up in our family of origin. In addition, we possess the knowledge that we learned from our experiences in life and our own personal studies that we have undertaken. [ii]

From Dr. Leman, the “lastborns” in a family (in this case, Jacob and Rachel) whose characteristics would be impulsive and not organized in their behavior; they would be perceptive and feeling free of the restraints of the culture in which they are living; they would be more focused on the overall picture than on the details.  Leah, on the other hand, would be considered as a firstborn with firstborn characteristics which are: organized, pays attention to the details, obeys all the rules of their society, assertive (50 percent chance, but with a same sex sister of less that five years age difference, probable). Although I’m sure Laban did not possess this detailed information on his daughters, he certainly knew the characteristics of his daughters and had made an assessment of the characteristics of Jacob.

Therefore, Laban, in making an effort to match Jacob up with the daughter with the complimentary skill package to Jacob, made the offer to give Jacob Rachel as his wife after Jacob has worked as an indentured servant to him for seven years.  Seven years of getting to know Jacob would give Laban time to assess Jacob’s skill package.  After the seven years of servitude, Jacob was awarded Rachel to be his wife.  After the marriage ceremony, Jacob returned to his tent and under the cover of darkness Laban slipped Leah in with Jacob. In the light of the morning sun and after Jacob had “come inside of Leah” (Bible language for sexual intercourse), he was shocked that he had taken Leah as his wife as sexual intercourse was the consummation of the marriage. Jacob confronted Laban on the switching of sisters.  Laban offered Rachel to Jacob after the wedding week of seven days for another seven years of indentured servitude.  After another seven years to pay his debt for Rachel, Jacob agreed to another seven years of indentured service to acquire assets for his family.  Using his ingenuity, Jacob increased his herd of sheep and other assets at the expense of Laban.

Jacob then had it in mind to return to his family and make peace with his twin brother Esau.  Jacob accomplished that mission and took up residence separate from his family of origin.  Jacob had six sons by his wife Leah and then Dinah was born, the only girl in a family with a total of twelve sons. When Dinah was a young teenager, her body changed right on schedule. Her hormones took control of her mind and body and it was time to find a mate.  Evidently stating that she is off to meet other women in the area, she ends up with Shechem, the son of Hamor, the Hivite.  She undoubtedly performed her female magic on this young man and he ended up “violating her” (sexual intercourse before marriage).

Dinah’s brothers heard of this incident and became enraged at this young man.  The young man agreed to take Dinah as his wife, but the brothers did not agree, as this society had very different social customs than their clan.  The brothers agreed to this marriage only if all the men in this clan became circumcised as they were.  When the whole clan was circumcised and still in pain, two of Dinah’s brothers attacked this clan with their swords (for this era they would be made of brass) and killed all the men in the clan and seized all their property, wives and children, as their plunder.

During this whole episode, Dinah was silent of her activities in this “violation of her virginity.”  Dinah was not proactive, not assertive, and made no mention of her involvement in these activities.  This situation seemed to follow the protocols for a “shotgun wedding” or “how to get a husband the desperate female way,” when her mind and body were under the control of her hormones which were placed in her by the Creator of the Universe.

The Take Away Lesson

 When someone assumes a non-assertive, passive position, holding back facts that could benefit an accused person or group of persons, may result in causing great harm, pain and suffering to these accused persons to whom your voice could have prevented judgment; it is this judgment that results in pain and suffering of the accused.

Project Your Voice

 The Creator of the Universe gave us a diaphragm located below our stomach.  This organ is used to push air over the vocal cords and into the resonate cavity, a.k.a. our mouth cavity.  The larger the resonate cavity, the greater the volume of air that is moved and the louder the sound of speech and singing. Opening this resonate cavity (the mouth) widely allows the expelled air to interact with the air around us, producing a sound wave that travels to the ear drum of the listener, where it is converted to electrical signals and is heard in the brain as speech or singing. Observe the news reporter on the television.  See how wide they open their mouths when speaking. This process is known as “voice projection.” It should be used when communicating with any person or group that is father away from the speaker than a coffee shop table.  This voice projection will enable you to come to anyone’s defense and put forth your own observations of the events at hand.

Practice, Practice, Practice

Learning how to project your voice is no different than learning any activity; the key word is practice.  Here is an illustration of how to start this voice projection process.  Put your hand on top of your stomach while seated in a chair.  Bend over until your hand is touching your legs.  This action will cause the diaphragm to move in and out. Transfer this motion to a standing position and push your belly button out and then slowly retract the belly button, expelling air out of your mouth.  Now there is no excuse for not speaking up when you can provide insight or evidence to any situation – even in a classroom where it would improve the flow of information. If the speaker asked to be recognized by the group leader before speaking, that would also improve the interactions of the group.

Predestination

 The Creator of the Universe, “God,” has predestined all activities in His universe, including when to find a mate to reproduce the species.  These hormones are released into the body at the proper time by the brain, where the creator is present, [iii]  at the control center for our bodies. “God has provided a way for all life, but man strives to find his own way.” [iv] It is this acceptance of what has been predestined by the Creator that brings peace to the mind and to the Earth.

Dinah’s Story

 Dinah was at the age where her hormones would be in control of her mind and body.   Finding a mate to reproduce the species had become her priority.  Inbreeding, such as was performed by Abraham and Sara, his sister, combines DNA with faulty genes to be passed down to the next generation. Hybridizing with a mate outside of the family of origin, any another than is a first cousin, can eliminate the faulty genetic factor from the DNA sequence, resulting in descendants who are stronger and more resistant to diseases, viruses and microorganisms to which the human species is subjected.  Compare these facts with the history of purebred canines being more susceptible to these listed illnesses than mutts (hybridized canines)!

Dinah was on the right path to finding a mate outside of her twelve brothers.  But when the relationship with her perspective mate exceeded her expectations, she did not inform her brothers of her complicity in the situation, resulting in the death of all the males in this clan!  It is this writer’s experience with adult singles groups that the single ladies often chose the leader of the group, if he is also single and available, for their prospective mate, therefore, it is reasonable that Dinah would chose the leader of the Hivite Clan’s son for a mate.  One can only speculate on how the slaughter of her prospective mate and his clam by her two brothers affected her emotionally; this had to be a devastating experience for her.  She just wanted to find a mate outside her clan of brothers!  Just like all the mammals in God’s kingdom, she chose who she thought had the best genes to pass on down to her offspring.

He who has ears, let them hear.

[i]                   Dr. Kevin Leman drlamen.com

[ii]                  Robert C. Solomon, ”Introduction to Philosophy”, Pub. Harcourt Brace Jovanovich, 1986

[iii]                 Marvin Meyer, Editor, “The Nag Hammadi Scriptures”, “Gospel of Mary” (Magdalene), Pub.    HarperOne, 2007, P 742

[iv]                 The Bible, Proverbs 16

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Firstborns, Only Children and the Later Born

Firstborns, Only Children and the Later Born Ver. 1.2.2

(Why to do they Always get Voted the Most Likely to Succeed in Medicine, Science and Politics?)

The Top Gun National Crises Troubleshooter, Retired

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12/28/2015

Revised 2/8/2017

Copyright 2015

 

Introduction

The Firstborn and the Only Child have some common personality and skill packages that put them in good favor of being successful in medicine, science and politics.  The personality characteristics of the Only Child can somewhat be considered a super firstborn.  A short inventory of Doctors, Scientist, and Politicians reveals a significant population of Firstborn and Only Children.  Only children come in two varieties the Natural Only Child and the Functional Only Child.  The basic premises are that the Only Child grew up in their family of origin without the benefit of younger siblings to interact with.  Firstborns also come in different varieties: Firstborn, Firstborn Male, Firstborn Female and those who had at least five years separating them from their siblings.  Several of the past presidents of the USA were Functional Only Children as shown in the chart below.

Notable Leaders with Similar Families of Origin

Person of Interest Sibling Status[i] Leadership Roles
Abraham Lincoln Lost younger sibling at early age.  A functional only child. President of USA during Civil War
Theodore Roosevelt Lost younger brother at early age.  A functional only child. President of USA, Leader of The Rough Riders at San Juwan Hill.
Franklin D. Roosevelt Raised by mother/grandmother. A functionally only child President of USA for four terms.  Strengthened the US infrastructure.
Thomas Edison[ii] An only child Early American Inventor extraordinaire.
J. Edgar Hoover[iii] Older siblings greater than ten years.  A functional only child Head of the FBI for fifty years
Bill Clinton Raised up alone as a functional only child. President of the USA

 

 

George W. Bush Seven years between first son and second son President of the USA
Barak Obama Raised up alone as a functional only child. President of the USA

 

Vladimir Putin [iv] Natural only child Leader, Russia
Dr. Dobson[v] Natural only child Head of Focus on the Family
Teaching Pastor [vi] Natural only child Leader and teacher of a local church

Adlerian Psychology is the study of Birth-Order and it relationship to personality characteristics.  The foremost author in the late twentieth century and early twenty-first century is Dr. Kevin Leman.[vii]  Below is his chart of Firstborn personalities the benefits and handicaps.

Traits of a Firstborn[viii]

Trait Positive Aspects Negative Aspects
Perfectionist Does everything well Overly critical and dissatisfied with his own performance
Driven Ambitious, headed for success Always under great pressure
Organized Able to stay on top of everything No room in life for flexibility
Scholarly Able to think problems through and solve them Sometimes thinks too much; is overly serious
List Maker Get things done; knows where he’s going Boxes himself in; becomes a slave to his list
Logical Avoids pitfalls of compulsive behavior Knows he’s right even when he isn’t
Leader Plays an important part in his family, community, etc. Expected to do too much; always leaned on by others
Compliant Known as a good guy Known as an easy mark
Aggressive Gets ahead in life’ others look up to him Tends to be selfish and to disregard the feelings of others

 

Traits of Only Children [ix] (Super Firstborns)

Trait Positive Aspects Negative Aspects
Uncompromising Gets what they want Others do not get what they want
Communication Style “I want” this and “I want” that Others do not get what they want
Controlling Must be in control of all situations Others are left out of participating in the solutions
Must be the leader Natural take charge leaders Cannot follow some else’s lead

 

 

In charge of their life Knows where they are going Does not always know how to get where they want to go or accept nontraditional methods
Trusts in Tradition Steady guiding force of the proven whether successful or not; trusts the existing paradigm Not receptive to out-of-the-box thinking; will reject a new paradigm
Non-Negotiator They get what they want No experience in negotiating a “Workable Compromise” with another sibling
Successful against all odds “They can be anything they want to be” “Their mother or grandmother”. Good examples of “The Peter Principle” ( promoted above their capabilities)
Criticism Criticizes self for improvement to perfection Criticizes others.  “Judge and what every measure you use to judge, so shall you be judged.” [x]
Pays attention to the details Advantageous in Science, Engineering and Medicine Can get bogged down in the details striving for perfection
Long range planners Can make detailed plans for the future of an organization Gets committed to his plan and unwilling to change course.
Likes structure Scheduling/Planning/Structure is paramount Does not do well with spontaneous  opportunities
Prefers association with more mature adults Grew up alone with adults, therefore is comfortable with more mature adults Misses out on some play time with adults in their age group.
Approval seeking “Look what I have done by myself” Works better alone than with a group

 

Discussion

The largest difference between the Firstborn in the family and the Only-Child is their interaction and competition for their parent attention with their siblings.  The Firstborn with siblings is often put in charge of the younger siblings and develops leadership skills and sensitivity to the feelings of their siblings.  They are often responsible for organizing the games they will play together and setting the rules of the games.  The Firstborns will develop a parental role towards their younger siblings looking after them and protecting them.  This will usually manifest itself in a “Tell Assertive” communicative style where they usually assert themselves by telling other what to do.   It’s little wonder that this family pecking order is reestablished in the workplace.  The Only-Child misses out on these interactions with siblings; this could be a natural or a functional Only-Child (one who lost their siblings early in life or was isolated from them in different ways) and comes into the workforce with a individualistic communication style (It’s all about me).

To meet the demands of their younger siblings, the Firstborn must learn the art of “negotiating workable compromises”, the Only-Child is not afforded this opportunity.  The Only-Child has no competition for their parent’s attention and is often made to think they are the most important person on the planet (which from their parents point of view they are the most important person on the planet).  The Firstborn has this position of being the most important person on the planet for a short period of time until the second child is born.  They get read to sleep at night and spend time alone with their parents for this short time, than the competition arrives and their exclusive access to their parents change and the amount of time the parents can focus on each child changes.  This can be shown experimentally by examining the forensic evidence in the family photo album.  There one can find many photos of the Firstborn alone, but the rest of the siblings are photographed with “The Gang” with the exception of the Lastborn who gets some individual attention from their parents when their siblings have left the nest.

The Middleborn

The middle kids usually develop good negotiating skills, they have had to establish “Their Space” between an older sibling and a younger sibling and keeping the peace between the older and younger sibling especially if all are the same sex.  This negotiating skill will manifest itself in an “Ask Assertive” communication style where they learn how to maintain control and the peace by asking questions to assert themselves over their siblings and coworkers.  They often find themselves in middle management positions keeping the peace between those running the organization, the firstborns, and the lastborn workers.   The middle-born child often tries to get through live without being noticed, they are just part of “The Gang” [xi]

The Lastborn

The Lastborn grows up with almost everything laid out for them by their older siblings and parents and they come into the workforce looking to be directed by others in the workforce.  They often want their own ‘Freedom’ but once on their own find it difficult to manage their affairs to keep them solvent.  They tend to be more sociable than their older siblings and an easy mark for being taken advantage of in adulthood. [xii]   Probably from their social nature, the Sales Force seems to be disproportionately populated with the Lastborns in their family of origin, and comedians and philosophers are also well represented by the Lastborns (Anything to get out of doing real work).

Personal Experience in Adlerian Psychology

At a national science laboratory platform speakers club (LLNL), I once had the podium in an impromptu speaking session.  The meeting was held in a large conference room holding over a dozen people.  I asked the members of this speakers club how many of them were the firstborn in their families of origin?  All the people in the room, except me, raised their hand indicating they were the firstborns in their families.  I performed a similar experiment in a study group at a local church again with over a dozen members.  I asked how many men in this class had an older brother.  Ninety percent of the men raised their hands.  I then asked how many women in this class were the oldest in their family of origin; eighty percent of the men with older brothers came to class with their firstborn wives!  At another church where I had previously been a member and knew several men in this church, I asked if they had an older brother, their answer “yes” even the young preacher had an older brother.  Does this mean that ninety percent of men who are involved with the mission of a church have an older brother?  I asked the young preacher if his older brother went into the field of science, he replied in the affirmative.  Does this writer have an older brother?  “Yes”.  Ten years older, that would qualify this writer as a functional only child.  Is this writer involved with the mission of the church?  This is the same writer of the Blog: http://anewparadigminchristianthinking.wordpress.com/.

The Case of DNA

Does DNA play a role in our personality traits and skill packages?  In a recent program, on PBS, the latest developments of DNA science were disclosed that our DNA changes with our experience so as we learn new skills (and knowledge) our DNA changes to reflect these additions to our skill packages.  Therefore, when the parents, who are young and inexperienced, have their first children, the DNA passed down to these first children will be different than the DNA passed down to later children because the DNA of the parents have changed with their adult experiences.  All of the children in a family will then receive different skill packages from the same parents, depending on how more advanced and experienced their parents developed.

QED

[i] http://deadpresidents.tumblr.com/post/15457991558/which-presidents-were-the-oldest-child-the

[ii] PBS 2015

[iii] ibid

[iv] Frontline 01/2015

[v] Personal information

[vi] ibid

[vii] http://drleman.com

[viii] Dr. Kevin Leman, “The First Born Advantage” Revell pub., 2008, P 69

[ix] Personal observations well working with the USA’s Best of the Best at a national science Laboratory and a local church

[x] Jesus Matthew 7:1-5

[xi] http://drleman.com

[xii] Luke 15:11-24