School and Public Shootings in the USA, a Solution

 

 

School and Public Shootings in the USA, a Solution

The Top Gun National Crises Troubleshooter, Retired

https://gadflyblog.com/tag/shootings

6/17/2018

Bullies

On examination of previous school and public shootings, the term “bullies” has come up possibly as a common denominator.  Given that “bullies” are at the root of the cause of these shootings, I hereby submit my proposal for mitigation of these shooting incidents in the USA.

 

At the Lawrence Livermore National Laboratory (LLNL) in my past experience (18 years ago) and a local church (current to date), I have noticed that the number of persons developing the “only-child syndrome” in regard to the bully complex has increased.  The number of “only children has increased dramatically in the past twenty years. This could explain the increase in school violence, as more bully and more passive aggressive personalities would result in more conflict.

 

During my last several years at LLNL, I was often paired up with the new employees that were exhibiting this bully communication style, since I had been through the special training to transform an aggressive communicator to an assertive Communicator (for good reasons).   The basic tip-off that I was dealing with an only child bully was that, on meeting them the first time, or sometime after, they would hit me with a blast of criticism. Dr. Kevin Leman wrote a separate chapter in his latest book on the subject, titled The Lonely Only: Super Firstborn Only Children. [i] In it, he listed the Strengths and Weaknesses of Only Children. [ii]

Assertive communicators make very good team players and the basic group at LLNL could be termed a “task force to accomplish a mission.”  A synopsis of the methods used to transform the bullies to an assertive communicator is given below.

 

Proposal to Mitigate Public Shootings

 

Communication Styles

 

The pundits of communication have identified four styles of communication that pretty much describe all of our citizens.  They are identified by four different characteristics.

 

Passive Aggressive Submissive Assertive Aggressive
You win; I lose, but I will get you back You win; I lose You win; I win I win; you lose
Snake-in-the-grass Doormats Adults Tyrant
Loser to tyrant Child to adult Adult to adult Adult to child

Becoming a Passive Aggressive, Submissive or Aggressive communicator is a function of birth-order and environmental knowledge learned early in life (less than six years old).  Becoming an Assertive Communicator is a function of training and education.   A slight modification of this standard chart to accommodate the Bullies in our schools and society is as follows:

Passive Aggressive Submissive Assertive Aggressive
You win; I lose, but I will get you back You win; I lose You win; I win I win; you lose
Snakes in the Grass Child to adult Adult to adult Tyrant to child,  only child syndrome
Shooters Doormats Adults Bullies

 

At the LLNL, (in my past experience) dealing with bullies was a standard and common practice. LLNL is well known for allowing only the best and the brightest through the front door.  Academically, the firstborns in their family and only children or children raised as only children (functional only children) were typically at the top of their class in college, [iii] Therefore, LLNL was made up of personnel that were predominately in these two categories, and therefore it was not unusual for LLNL to have a significant number of bullies.  This situation was mitigated by having an on-contract professional communication specialist who conducted seminars at LLNL.  When a bully made themselves known to management, they were encouraged to attend these communication seminars.

 

The following could be called the Ten Commandments (Ten Guidelines) for communication.  The objective for all of society, including schools, is to become assertive communicators (You win; I win). 

 

Interpersonal Communication Techniques Explained [iv] 

“It  doesn’t matter how you became what you are; this is what works.Manuel J. Smith, Ph.D.

(1) Broken Record: A skill, by calm repetition – saying what you want over and over again – teaches persistence without you having to rehearse arguments or angry feelings beforehand, in order to be ‘up’ for dealing with others.

Effect: Allows you to feel comfortable in ignoring manipulative verbal side traps, argumentative baiting, irrelevant logic, while sticking to your desired point.

(2) Fogging: A skill that teaches acceptance of manipulative criticism by calmly acknowledging to your critic the probability that there may be some truth in what he says, yet allows you to remain your own judge of what you do.

Example: That’s true. I …”

Effect: Allows you to receive criticism comfortably without becoming anxious or defensive, while giving no reward to those using manipulative criticism.

(3) Free Information: A skill that teaches the recognition of simple cues given by a social partner in everyday conversation to indicate what is interesting or important to that person.

Effect: Allows you to feel less shy in entering into conversation while at the same time prompting social partners to talk more easily about themselves.

(4) Negative Assertion: A skill that teaches acceptance of your errors and faults (without having to apologize) by strongly and sympathetically agreeing with hostile or constructive criticism of your negative qualities.

Effect: Allows you to look more comfortably at negatives in your own behavior or personality without feeling defensive and anxious, resorting to denial of real error, while at the same time reducing our critic’s anger or hostility.

Example:You didn’t do too well in (criticism).” “You’re right. I wasn’t too smart in the way I handled that, was I?” “That was a dumb thing for me to do.” Use this technique in non-legal matters ONLY!

(5) Negative Inquiry: A skill that teaches the active prompting of criticism in order to use the information (if helpful) or exhaust it (if manipulative), while prompting your critic to be more assertive and less dependent on manipulative ploys.

 Effect: Allows you more comfortably to seek out criticism about yourself in close relationships while prompting the other person to express honest negative feelings and improve communication.

Example: “What was it about … that is wrong?”  “What was it that I … that was wrong?”

(6) Self-Disclosure: A skill that teaches the acceptance and initiation of discussion of both the positive and negative aspects of your personality, behavior, lifestyle intelligence, to enhance social communication and reduce manipulation.

Effect: Allows you comfortably to disclose aspects of yourself and your life that previously caused feelings of ignorance, anxiety, or guilt.”

Example: “I like …” or “I don’t like …”, etc.

(7) Workable compromise: In using your verbal assertive skills, it is practical, whenever you feel that your self-respect is not in question, to offer a workable compromise to the other person.  You can always bargain for your material goals unless the compromise affects your personal feelings of self-respect.  If the end goal involves a matter of your self-worth, however, there can be no compromise.

(8) Reflective or Active Listening

Reflective or active listening serves a couple of purposes.  1) The target summarizes or paraphrases what the verbal bully is saying and confirms their complaint or position.  2) The target is given time to think of their response.  This technique is something like counting to ten before returning the punch!  3) If the verbal bully is attacking with a question, repeat or rephrase the question, and then answer the question.  This technique also allows the target time to think before responding. This technique is sometimes used by politicians, only they may even go so far as to change the question to one they can answer!

(9) Expand Your Repertoire of Emotional Words

 

 

(10) Find or Organize a Group to Practice these New Communication Skills

 

11) Pass on Your New Communication Skills to Someone Else.

 

Discussion

 

The big question is: can these assertive communication techniques change the personalities of the aggressive bullies and the passive aggressive shooters? Will the aggressive and the passive aggressive use these techniques to advance their own agendas? An alternative would be to place the only children who tend to be aggressive in the same classes so they are matched with students of the same aggressive personalities. In the 1980’s, China enacted their “One Child Only” policy. That would mean that China is ahead of the USA in dealing with these aggressive personalities, as all the children in China would be only children. However, as Dr. Kevin Leman has observed, “When it comes to finding the perfect mate, only children are like vanilla ice cream—they go together with everything, except another only child.” [v] It looks like China has recognized this trend of incapability of two only children as mates and has enacted a new policy of two-child families. However, this policy will not produce the middle born peace-keepers and natural negotiators.

 

As purposed in an earlier letter, a task force could be assembled at a local church consisting of persons who have been members of the Explorers group for several years. This group could act as a pilot program for proof of principle and a problem-solving task force. My observation is that at least one of these members is an only child who has been through these assertive training programs, along with a much younger only child involved in the education system. Therefore, this mix of personalities should produce a successful task force.

[i] Dr. Kevin Leman, “The Birth Order Book” “Why you Are the Way You Are”, Pub. Revell, 2009, Chapter 7

[ii] Ibid p 147

[iii] Ibid

[iv] Manuel J. Smith, Ph.D., “When I say no, I feel guilty”, Bantam Books, 1975, pp 323-324

[v] http://drleman.com/

 

We’ve got Trouble, Trouble, Trouble, Right Here in the USA, It Starts with “V” and that stands for “Visualization”

We’ve got Trouble, Trouble, Trouble, Right Here in the USA, It Starts with “V” and that stands for “Visualization” Ver. 1.1.0

The Philosopher

The Top Gun National Crises Troubleshooter, Retired

https://gadflyblog.com/tag/visualization

May 7, 2013, Revised 1/24/2018

The Making of a Troubleshooter

I was identified by my sergeant as a troubleshooter when I was 22 years old serving in the United States Air Force in the South Pacific as a flight-line jet engine mechanic.  My sergeant then assigned me to all the troubleshooting jobs and tasked me with giving a second opinion on the troubleshooting that others had performed when there were long wait times for parts.  I seemed to have the ability to visualize the processes that were involved in a system in these jet engines and visualized a solution.  Later in life, I used the same skills as a troubleshooter for the energy and defense departments at the Lawrence Livermore National Laboratory.  It has always intrigued me why I had these skills and others did not.

Inherited Skills

An inheritance from my father and mother was my conclusion for these visualization skills.  My father was a doctor of veterinary medicine and my mother was also a college graduate and never went to bed without a book.  I was the youngest of eight children by my father and the last of four children by my mother.  My father was 51 years old when I was born and my mother was 39 years of age.  This theory gave validity to the idea of skills being inherited from our parents, a phenomenon easily observed in celebrity actors, musicians and public personalities.

DNA Passed Down to the Following Generations

We know that our DNA is passed down to our children and to their children.  We now know that our DNA changes as we learn new skills and knowledge.  The “improved” DNA is passed down through the generations.  Both of my parents were very well experienced in life with much improved DNA to pass down to me.  Thus, the children in these families receive different DNA as DNA is improved with life’s experiences and by learning.

Visualization a Learned Skill through our Environment

Lately I recalled my early childhood experience of listing to stories every Sunday evening, as the neighborhood kids and I were laid out in front of the floor model radio in our middle-class home, listening to “Gunsmoke,” “Johnny Dollar Insurance Investigator” and more.  As we listened to these stories, we visualized them in our minds, and I think this is where this visualization skill was developed.  Was it developed in many others?  Probably, but not many made it to the forefront of technology.  I can recall some of my classmates at about the second grade level talk about watching “Zorro” on the television. This would have been about 1952.  Our family did not have a television until I was in high school so I had more visualization training than some classmates did.  I recall conversations with others who grew up in this generation saying that “Gunsmoke” on the radio was much better than “Gunsmoke” on the television.  The visualizations we created in our own minds were better than what Hollywood had produced.

The High Tech World

I now believe it was this early training in visualization and inherited DNA that enabled me to visualize the processes of systems in the high-tech world as they were applied to physics and mechanical systems in a troubleshooting environment.

The Visualization-Design Process

When I was designing hardware for use in Physics Experiments, I would find a quiet place to sit back and visualize the design in my mind and then go to my Drawing Board and record the design that was in my mind.  This design process is significantly difference than creating a design one line at a time.  One other notable example for using this method of “Visualization-Design Process” was “Nikola Tesla (Serbian Cyrillic: Никола Тесла; 10 July 1856 – 7 January 1943) was a Serbian-American inventor, electrical engineer, mechanical engineer, physicist, and futurist who is best known for his contributions to the design of the modern alternating current (AC) electricity supply system.” [i] It is reported that he would design his systems in his mind before he picked up his pencil and drew the design on paper. [ii] This visualization design process is similar to the experiences reported by Elon Musk CEO of Tesla Motors, commercial space program SpaceX. Freemont, California, a transplant to the USA from South Africa/Canada. [iii]  Is the USA in need of importing our visualization leaders from other countries?

Conclusion

The conclusion of this insight must be obvious. Let’s get back to reading our children stories from books and re-empower the radio stories for our children to listen to so that they can use their own visualization skills to envision the stories.  Let’s lose the television, video movies, video games, YouTube, and any other sources of distraction that gets in the way of visualization training of our children. We will end up with a much empowered group of adults capable of visualization, who are now an almost “lost generation” of visualization specialists.   This may take a few generations as it certainly looks like the passing of DNA from one generation to the next is also involved in the “Visualization Process”.

QED

[i] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nikola_Tesla/

[ii] http://shopPBS.org/, “Tesla, AMERICAN EXPERIENCE”, DVD, March-2017

[iii] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Elon_Musk/

Ten Simple Codes of Conduct

Ten Simple Codes of Conduct Ver. 1.0.1

The Philosopher

https://gadflyblog.com/tag/codes-of-conduct/

5/16/2017

Copyright 2017

Introduction

These Ten Simple Codes of Conduct have been misinterpreted since they were first written over three thousand years ago.  They were meant to provide a new nation with an infrastructure that would make them an economic powerhouse and greater than their competitors that would want to take their land from them. These Ten Simple Codes of Conduct when followed, would produce a nation with a high national economic operating efficiency (NEOE), resulting in what would not be a continuing growing national debt as we (the USA) now have, but a national economic surplus.

These Ten Simple Codes of Conduct have been made into a religious symbol by labeling them as “The Ten Commandments” – commandments that must be followed under the authority of God.  Therefore, under a “separation of church and state” policy, a growing number of individuals and organizations think they should be removed from public property.  The Ten Commandments were never meant to be religious and this is probably the most disastrous action that could have been initiated onto these Ten Imperatives.  They were meant to develop a strong infrastructure in this new nation making them economically stronger than their competitors that would take their land from them.  It is the nation’s economic vitality that makes a nation strong, not its many weapons and troops on the ground.   Philosophically, the Ten Commandments are hypothetical Imperatives and not categorical imperatives.  A categorical imperative is something one does because it is the right thing to do.  A hypothetical imperative means there is a reward for following the imperative. German Philosopher, Immanuel Kant, of the eighteenth century, thought that there was only one categorical imperative, as he stated, “Act as if the maxim of thy action were to become by thy will a universal law of nature[i].    The reward for following the Ten Simple Codes of Conduct is that “we will live long in the land that has been given to us.” (Exodus 20:12) Thus, the Ten Simple Codes of Conduct are actually Ten Hypothetical Imperatives.

Two Ways to Enslave a Nation

“There are two ways to enslave a nation – with war and with debt.”
John Adams, second president of the USA

We are in an economic war with our international competitors and the nation that has the highest NEOE will own the other nation’s debt.  Theoretically, the interest on the national debt can grow to exceed our taxable gross national product (GDP) and the cost to operate our country.  In this case, we will have become slaves to the nation holding our national debt.  The Ten Simple Codes of Conduct were, and are meant to, form a strong national infrastructure and create a high NEOE, therefore, making us more competitive in the international economic war.  This is not by the will of a “higher power” but first year economic principles.  The lower a nation’s NEOE, the higher the national debt will be. The higher the nation’s NEOE, the lower the national debt will be, and there may even be a surplus in the budget.

Explanation of the Ten Simple Codes of Conduct [ii]

  1. You shall have no other gods before me: Would not any parent tell their children this same thing – that they are the ones responsible for their children’s well-being, so don’t seek advice or help from anyone else. There is a higher power who is the one with all the resources and He’s the one who is willing to give us the resources we need to live on this planet. Just as our parents gave us what we needed to live on this planet Earth, so does this higher power, a.k.a. the Creator of the Universe (CoU).
  2. Do not make yourself an idol: These instructions are to a people that are naturally very religious and they are going to find something to worship that is going to take up their time, energy and resources. This can be extrapolated to modern times to such things as: alcohol, tobacco, drugs, porn, gambling and many more things that can take control of our lives.  The Russian physiologist, Ivan Pavlov, showed us how easy it is to form a habit through conditioned response by rewarding ourselves for a certain behavior, a.k.a. “classical conditioning” [iii].
  3. You shall not misuse the name of the Lord your God: This has been interpreted for centuries as a verbal This cannot be a verbal activity; it has to be an action activity.   Do not intend to bring harm, discomfort or kill anyone in the name of God, a.k.a. the CoU.  This applies to a nation as well as to individuals that make up that nation.  This cannot be both verbal and action, because if it were both, someone might make a verbal remark that is taken by someone else as “taking God’s name in vain” and then they chose to bring discomfort or death to the accused, which is an action in God’s name, and therefore, misusing the name of God.   Therefore, verbal and action of the misuse of the name of God are mutually exclusive.Even the Apostle Peter did not understand that misusing the name of God is an action, as he verbally accused two capitalists of withholding funds to the Apostles’ social program after they had sold their land and only gave part of the capital gains to the Apostles. It appears both the husband and wife may have died from a heart attack after being accused of sinning against God by Peter for withholding part of the capital gains from the sale of their property and only contributing a portion of the proceeds to the Apostles’ social fund to take care of widows and those in need. [iv]  If this is the role model we are to follow, we are in “Deep Trouble” economically!
  4. Remember the Sabbath and keep it holy: The best reference I have seen on this subject states that “The Sabbath was made for man, not man for the Sabbath.[v]   We need one day a week to recharge our batteries, and spend time with our families and friends.  Everyone needs to choose for themselves what day this will be for them.The latest investigations by this writer indicate that the seven-day week evolved from there being five stars that wandered (Planetes Asteres`), [vi] plus the sun and the moon, as Earth was thought to be the center of the universe. Nature has shown us many numbers in a Fibonacci Sequence (1, 2, 3, 5, 8, 13, 21, etc. to infinity), such as the numbers of: spring flower petals, rings on a sea shell, layers on a pine cone, stars in galaxies, etc.  The number seven does not appear in any significance in nature!  Therefore, an eight-day week, consisting of a five-day work week and a three-day weekend, would allow for one day to resupply the home with life’s necessities, one day to perform all the required maintenance on the home and one day to spend with family and friends (the Sabbath day).  Or, take as many three-day holidays as you desire. [vii]
  5. Honor your father and your mother, that you might live long, in the land I’m giving you: We need to learn from our parents and respect their wisdom and knowledge.  They have seen things firsthand that we will never see.  “Living long in this land” is an economic reality.  These Ten Simple Codes of Conduct are classified as hypothetical imperatives – something one does because there is a reward for following the imperatives. This is not by the choice of a higher power it is first-year economics.   Any nation that follows these Ten Imperatives (not necessarily the USA) will develop a strong infrastructure and a high NEOE.   The result will be that they will be stronger economically than the nations that would like to take their land from them.Modern twenty-first century technology has shown that, as we develop our skills, knowledge and abilities, our DNA also changes and reflects these improvements. Therefore, our parents and ancestors passed down their skills, knowledge and abilities though their DNA and we will pass our improved DNA to our descendants. Respecting the sources of our DNA certainly speaks of honoring your father and mother and their ancestors.
  6. You shall not murder: We will not advance socially if we are killing each other.  Each of us can contribute to the economics of the nation and we need all of our productive citizens to operate efficiently.
  7. You shall not commit adultery: This is probably one of our nation’s most complicated issues.  One really needs to connect with this Personal Counselor, Personal Advisor, or Tour Guide through Life that the Representative of the Creator of the Universe (RoCoU), a.k.a. Jesus, sent to us at the Pentecost Festival after his ascension into His world in a form that was compliant for the journey.  Notice that these are descriptive terms for what the literature calls The Holy Spirit, or the Holy Ghost. These are known as “horse labels” (“this is a horse” or “this is an elephant”).  The former are known as “descriptive labels,” as they describe what the entity does.  To connect to this Personal Advisor, one only needs to make a decision to want to connect to the Advisor, and the Advisor will find you. Just be prepared to listen to this Advisor advising you (something like “a little birdie told me”). This is all you need to do. There are no ceremonies needed – not even a declaration of your decision, as this decision is personal, private and confidential information, and it is between you and this Personal Counselor.It should be noted that adultery does not specify monogamy; it does not rule out polygamy. Having more than one spouse of either sex earning an income would upset the economy due to the fundamental law of economics: supply and demand.  Having more than one income per household causes those with only one income in their household to have to hold down two jobs or find a way to supplement their income.  Sometimes this situation results from the “Have-Nots” preying on the assets of the “Haves” and feeling justified in doing so.  Civil law would judge these single income families as law-breakers for these activities resulting in the taxpayers paying for their room and board in a government-run penal facility, contributing in-turn to a decrease in our NEOE and an increase in our national debt. [viii]  Thus extra taxes would need to be leveled on multiple income families to equilibrate for the economic reality of supply and demand.
  1. You shall not steal: Theft causes a great inefficiency in our national economic operations. These activities results in there being too many policemen’s boots on the ground trying to manage these crimes and building more prisons to hold more prisoners. It is counterproductive to increasing our GDP and increases our national debt.  This could extrapolate to the point where more of our tax dollars are spent building prisons and taking care of inmates than tax dollars allocated to educating the next generations of GDP producers. Schools and prisons are in competition with each other for funds from the taxpayers. The more funds allocated to prisons, the less funds are allocated to schools that are producing our next generation of GDP producers.
  2. You shall not give false witness against thy neighbor: Courts are inherently inefficient; we should not waste our tax dollars on false reports of crimes committed.  It costs dollars to defend oneself against false charges, which may be the objective of the one making the false report, but we must think of the cost to the taxpayers as well as the effects on our NEOE.
  3. You shall not covet thy neighbor’s house or wife: Be content with what you have. Legal cost to manage greed can be staggering and the negative social issues that result from divorces are numerous and astounding.   These are all a drain on our NEOE and can have lasting effects on others in our society down to the next three or four generations.

Conclusion

The Ten Commandments have been misinterpreted since their inception.  We see their dramatization every year by Cecil B. De Mill’s presentation of The Ten Commandments and Charlton Heston’s portrayal of Moses coming down from Mount Saini with the these Ten Commandments written in stone.

Nobody likes to be commanded to do anything.  This is a loss of their freedom. Or is it?  My canine friend understands a number of commands, but these commands do not take away from his freedom. Instead, they provide for his safety and the safety of others.  Commands such as “stop,” “lead,” or “leave it” are all designed to provide for his safely in crossing streets and disengaging from other canines, felines, squirrels, etc.  So as it is with these Ten Simple Codes of Conduct – they are not given to take away from our freedom, but they are given to protect us from the invasion of our nation by a foreign competitor, by war or by debt, and the resulting loss of our freedom.
Q. E. D.

 

[i] Robert C. Solomon, “Introducing Philosophy”, 4th ed. Harcourt Brace Jovanovich, Pub. 1989, P 385

[ii], The Bible, NIV, “Exodus 20: 3-17

[iii] Classical Conditioning,  http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Classical_conditioning/

[iv] Peter, The Bible, “Acts of the Apostles” 5:1-11

[v] The Bible, NiV, “Mark 2:27”,

[vi] Greek astronomers, Sixth century BC,

[vii] The Philosopher, https://gadflyblog.com/tag/fibonacci/

[viii] https://anewparadigminchristianthinking.wordpress.com/tag/hypothetical-imperatives/

 

Firstborns, Only Children and the Later Born

Firstborns, Only Children and the Later Born Ver. 1.2.2

(Why to do they Always get Voted the Most Likely to Succeed in Medicine, Science and Politics?)

The Top Gun National Crises Troubleshooter, Retired

https://gadflyblog.com/tag/adlerian-psy/

http://thephilosopheronpolitics.wordpress.com/tag/adlerian-psy/

12/28/2015

Revised 2/8/2017

Copyright 2015

 

Introduction

The Firstborn and the Only Child have some common personality and skill packages that put them in good favor of being successful in medicine, science and politics.  The personality characteristics of the Only Child can somewhat be considered a super firstborn.  A short inventory of Doctors, Scientist, and Politicians reveals a significant population of Firstborn and Only Children.  Only children come in two varieties the Natural Only Child and the Functional Only Child.  The basic premises are that the Only Child grew up in their family of origin without the benefit of younger siblings to interact with.  Firstborns also come in different varieties: Firstborn, Firstborn Male, Firstborn Female and those who had at least five years separating them from their siblings.  Several of the past presidents of the USA were Functional Only Children as shown in the chart below.

Notable Leaders with Similar Families of Origin

Person of Interest Sibling Status[i] Leadership Roles
Abraham Lincoln Lost younger sibling at early age.  A functional only child. President of USA during Civil War
Theodore Roosevelt Lost younger brother at early age.  A functional only child. President of USA, Leader of The Rough Riders at San Juwan Hill.
Franklin D. Roosevelt Raised by mother/grandmother. A functionally only child President of USA for four terms.  Strengthened the US infrastructure.
Thomas Edison[ii] An only child Early American Inventor extraordinaire.
J. Edgar Hoover[iii] Older siblings greater than ten years.  A functional only child Head of the FBI for fifty years
Bill Clinton Raised up alone as a functional only child. President of the USA

 

 

George W. Bush Seven years between first son and second son President of the USA
Barak Obama Raised up alone as a functional only child. President of the USA

 

Vladimir Putin [iv] Natural only child Leader, Russia
Dr. Dobson[v] Natural only child Head of Focus on the Family
Teaching Pastor [vi] Natural only child Leader and teacher of a local church

Adlerian Psychology is the study of Birth-Order and it relationship to personality characteristics.  The foremost author in the late twentieth century and early twenty-first century is Dr. Kevin Leman.[vii]  Below is his chart of Firstborn personalities the benefits and handicaps.

Traits of a Firstborn[viii]

Trait Positive Aspects Negative Aspects
Perfectionist Does everything well Overly critical and dissatisfied with his own performance
Driven Ambitious, headed for success Always under great pressure
Organized Able to stay on top of everything No room in life for flexibility
Scholarly Able to think problems through and solve them Sometimes thinks too much; is overly serious
List Maker Get things done; knows where he’s going Boxes himself in; becomes a slave to his list
Logical Avoids pitfalls of compulsive behavior Knows he’s right even when he isn’t
Leader Plays an important part in his family, community, etc. Expected to do too much; always leaned on by others
Compliant Known as a good guy Known as an easy mark
Aggressive Gets ahead in life’ others look up to him Tends to be selfish and to disregard the feelings of others

 

Traits of Only Children [ix] (Super Firstborns)

Trait Positive Aspects Negative Aspects
Uncompromising Gets what they want Others do not get what they want
Communication Style “I want” this and “I want” that Others do not get what they want
Controlling Must be in control of all situations Others are left out of participating in the solutions
Must be the leader Natural take charge leaders Cannot follow some else’s lead

 

 

In charge of their life Knows where they are going Does not always know how to get where they want to go or accept nontraditional methods
Trusts in Tradition Steady guiding force of the proven whether successful or not; trusts the existing paradigm Not receptive to out-of-the-box thinking; will reject a new paradigm
Non-Negotiator They get what they want No experience in negotiating a “Workable Compromise” with another sibling
Successful against all odds “They can be anything they want to be” “Their mother or grandmother”. Good examples of “The Peter Principle” ( promoted above their capabilities)
Criticism Criticizes self for improvement to perfection Criticizes others.  “Judge and what every measure you use to judge, so shall you be judged.” [x]
Pays attention to the details Advantageous in Science, Engineering and Medicine Can get bogged down in the details striving for perfection
Long range planners Can make detailed plans for the future of an organization Gets committed to his plan and unwilling to change course.
Likes structure Scheduling/Planning/Structure is paramount Does not do well with spontaneous  opportunities
Prefers association with more mature adults Grew up alone with adults, therefore is comfortable with more mature adults Misses out on some play time with adults in their age group.
Approval seeking “Look what I have done by myself” Works better alone than with a group

 

Discussion

The largest difference between the Firstborn in the family and the Only-Child is their interaction and competition for their parent attention with their siblings.  The Firstborn with siblings is often put in charge of the younger siblings and develops leadership skills and sensitivity to the feelings of their siblings.  They are often responsible for organizing the games they will play together and setting the rules of the games.  The Firstborns will develop a parental role towards their younger siblings looking after them and protecting them.  This will usually manifest itself in a “Tell Assertive” communicative style where they usually assert themselves by telling other what to do.   It’s little wonder that this family pecking order is reestablished in the workplace.  The Only-Child misses out on these interactions with siblings; this could be a natural or a functional Only-Child (one who lost their siblings early in life or was isolated from them in different ways) and comes into the workforce with a individualistic communication style (It’s all about me).

To meet the demands of their younger siblings, the Firstborn must learn the art of “negotiating workable compromises”, the Only-Child is not afforded this opportunity.  The Only-Child has no competition for their parent’s attention and is often made to think they are the most important person on the planet (which from their parents point of view they are the most important person on the planet).  The Firstborn has this position of being the most important person on the planet for a short period of time until the second child is born.  They get read to sleep at night and spend time alone with their parents for this short time, than the competition arrives and their exclusive access to their parents change and the amount of time the parents can focus on each child changes.  This can be shown experimentally by examining the forensic evidence in the family photo album.  There one can find many photos of the Firstborn alone, but the rest of the siblings are photographed with “The Gang” with the exception of the Lastborn who gets some individual attention from their parents when their siblings have left the nest.

The Middleborn

The middle kids usually develop good negotiating skills, they have had to establish “Their Space” between an older sibling and a younger sibling and keeping the peace between the older and younger sibling especially if all are the same sex.  This negotiating skill will manifest itself in an “Ask Assertive” communication style where they learn how to maintain control and the peace by asking questions to assert themselves over their siblings and coworkers.  They often find themselves in middle management positions keeping the peace between those running the organization, the firstborns, and the lastborn workers.   The middle-born child often tries to get through live without being noticed, they are just part of “The Gang” [xi]

The Lastborn

The Lastborn grows up with almost everything laid out for them by their older siblings and parents and they come into the workforce looking to be directed by others in the workforce.  They often want their own ‘Freedom’ but once on their own find it difficult to manage their affairs to keep them solvent.  They tend to be more sociable than their older siblings and an easy mark for being taken advantage of in adulthood. [xii]   Probably from their social nature, the Sales Force seems to be disproportionately populated with the Lastborns in their family of origin, and comedians and philosophers are also well represented by the Lastborns (Anything to get out of doing real work).

Personal Experience in Adlerian Psychology

At a national science laboratory platform speakers club (LLNL), I once had the podium in an impromptu speaking session.  The meeting was held in a large conference room holding over a dozen people.  I asked the members of this speakers club how many of them were the firstborn in their families of origin?  All the people in the room, except me, raised their hand indicating they were the firstborns in their families.  I performed a similar experiment in a study group at a local church again with over a dozen members.  I asked how many men in this class had an older brother.  Ninety percent of the men raised their hands.  I then asked how many women in this class were the oldest in their family of origin; eighty percent of the men with older brothers came to class with their firstborn wives!  At another church where I had previously been a member and knew several men in this church, I asked if they had an older brother, their answer “yes” even the young preacher had an older brother.  Does this mean that ninety percent of men who are involved with the mission of a church have an older brother?  I asked the young preacher if his older brother went into the field of science, he replied in the affirmative.  Does this writer have an older brother?  “Yes”.  Ten years older, that would qualify this writer as a functional only child.  Is this writer involved with the mission of the church?  This is the same writer of the Blog: http://anewparadigminchristianthinking.wordpress.com/.

The Case of DNA

Does DNA play a role in our personality traits and skill packages?  In a recent program, on PBS, the latest developments of DNA science were disclosed that our DNA changes with our experience so as we learn new skills (and knowledge) our DNA changes to reflect these additions to our skill packages.  Therefore, when the parents, who are young and inexperienced, have their first children, the DNA passed down to these first children will be different than the DNA passed down to later children because the DNA of the parents have changed with their adult experiences.  All of the children in a family will then receive different skill packages from the same parents, depending on how more advanced and experienced their parents developed.

QED

[i] http://deadpresidents.tumblr.com/post/15457991558/which-presidents-were-the-oldest-child-the

[ii] PBS 2015

[iii] ibid

[iv] Frontline 01/2015

[v] Personal information

[vi] ibid

[vii] http://drleman.com

[viii] Dr. Kevin Leman, “The First Born Advantage” Revell pub., 2008, P 69

[ix] Personal observations well working with the USA’s Best of the Best at a national science Laboratory and a local church

[x] Jesus Matthew 7:1-5

[xi] http://drleman.com

[xii] Luke 15:11-24

Restructuring Social Security

Restructuring Social Security, Ver. 1.1.1

Jack E Johnston

https://gadflyblog.com/pension-plan
11/20/2014

Copyright 2014

The New Pension Plan for USA Citizens

The University of California (UC) probably has one of the best pension plan management in the country and should be used as a role model to restructure the Social Security Administration (SSA).   Breaking apart to its component parts results in a “Non-Profit, Academic Institution, managing a pension plan for its members”.  The present SSA uses new investor’s funds to pay unearned dividends to the matured investors.  The 401K and 403B plans put the pension plans in the hands of inexperienced investors.   My Stock Broker of many years, states “Stock brokers have the highest turnover rate of any profession.   A lot of people want to become Stock Brokers, but few are successful”.   The 401K-403B investors have only a few choices of investment provided by their employer, or they need to find a fund manager or manage their investments themselves.   There is a slim chance they will find a successful investment manager; there is also a slim chance of investing with a dishonest investor that steals their invested funds, and they themselves have a long learning curve to go through to be successful investors in their pension plans.

The Structure of the USA Pension Plan

The model of UC can be multiplied several times over using “non-profit, academic organization to manage pension plans for our citizens”.   With a choice of Academic organizations there will be competition between the academic organizations which should produce excellent rate of returns on investments for our citizens, especially if they can move their pension plan from one academic organization to another and the non-profit academic organization are allowed to collect a small management fee (1-3% prorated) of the funds invested for managing the pension funds, they will have even more incentive to produce excellent rate of returns on investments.  Rate of returns for the various academic organizations should be made available to the public.  This program results in smaller government, something that is supported in the conservative Congress.  The funds will be out of the control of the government, so legislators trying to balance a budget will not have access to the pension funds, this should produce long-term stability.

The Benefits of the Pension Plan for USA Citizens

The Budget will benefit as the nation will not have the expense of operating the SSA and the government will be only be in a subsidizing position resulting in a smaller government.  The transition from the present SSA system of paying the mature investors with new investor’s funds will probably have to be a negotiated transition and could be coordinated with the 401K and 403B programs.

The Non-profit, academic organization will produce income and will be able to lower the cost of admissions to their academic organization resulting in more educated citizens and greater tax dollars to the USA Government.