School and Public Shootings in the USA, a Solution

 

 

School and Public Shootings in the USA, a Solution

The Top Gun National Crises Troubleshooter, Retired

https://gadflyblog.com/tag/shootings

6/17/2018

Bullies

On examination of previous school and public shootings, the term “bullies” has come up possibly as a common denominator.  Given that “bullies” are at the root of the cause of these shootings, I hereby submit my proposal for mitigation of these shooting incidents in the USA.

 

At the Lawrence Livermore National Laboratory (LLNL) in my past experience (18 years ago) and a local church (current to date), I have noticed that the number of persons developing the “only-child syndrome” in regard to the bully complex has increased.  The number of “only children has increased dramatically in the past twenty years. This could explain the increase in school violence, as more bully and more passive aggressive personalities would result in more conflict.

 

During my last several years at LLNL, I was often paired up with the new employees that were exhibiting this bully communication style, since I had been through the special training to transform an aggressive communicator to an assertive Communicator (for good reasons).   The basic tip-off that I was dealing with an only child bully was that, on meeting them the first time, or sometime after, they would hit me with a blast of criticism. Dr. Kevin Leman wrote a separate chapter in his latest book on the subject, titled The Lonely Only: Super Firstborn Only Children. [i] In it, he listed the Strengths and Weaknesses of Only Children. [ii]

Assertive communicators make very good team players and the basic group at LLNL could be termed a “task force to accomplish a mission.”  A synopsis of the methods used to transform the bullies to an assertive communicator is given below.

 

Proposal to Mitigate Public Shootings

 

Communication Styles

 

The pundits of communication have identified four styles of communication that pretty much describe all of our citizens.  They are identified by four different characteristics.

 

Passive Aggressive Submissive Assertive Aggressive
You win; I lose, but I will get you back You win; I lose You win; I win I win; you lose
Snake-in-the-grass Doormats Adults Tyrant
Loser to tyrant Child to adult Adult to adult Adult to child

Becoming a Passive Aggressive, Submissive or Aggressive communicator is a function of birth-order and environmental knowledge learned early in life (less than six years old).  Becoming an Assertive Communicator is a function of training and education.   A slight modification of this standard chart to accommodate the Bullies in our schools and society is as follows:

Passive Aggressive Submissive Assertive Aggressive
You win; I lose, but I will get you back You win; I lose You win; I win I win; you lose
Snakes in the Grass Child to adult Adult to adult Tyrant to child,  only child syndrome
Shooters Doormats Adults Bullies

 

At the LLNL, (in my past experience) dealing with bullies was a standard and common practice. LLNL is well known for allowing only the best and the brightest through the front door.  Academically, the firstborns in their family and only children or children raised as only children (functional only children) were typically at the top of their class in college, [iii] Therefore, LLNL was made up of personnel that were predominately in these two categories, and therefore it was not unusual for LLNL to have a significant number of bullies.  This situation was mitigated by having an on-contract professional communication specialist who conducted seminars at LLNL.  When a bully made themselves known to management, they were encouraged to attend these communication seminars.

 

The following could be called the Ten Commandments (Ten Guidelines) for communication.  The objective for all of society, including schools, is to become assertive communicators (You win; I win). 

 

Interpersonal Communication Techniques Explained [iv] 

“It  doesn’t matter how you became what you are; this is what works.Manuel J. Smith, Ph.D.

(1) Broken Record: A skill, by calm repetition – saying what you want over and over again – teaches persistence without you having to rehearse arguments or angry feelings beforehand, in order to be ‘up’ for dealing with others.

Effect: Allows you to feel comfortable in ignoring manipulative verbal side traps, argumentative baiting, irrelevant logic, while sticking to your desired point.

(2) Fogging: A skill that teaches acceptance of manipulative criticism by calmly acknowledging to your critic the probability that there may be some truth in what he says, yet allows you to remain your own judge of what you do.

Example: That’s true. I …”

Effect: Allows you to receive criticism comfortably without becoming anxious or defensive, while giving no reward to those using manipulative criticism.

(3) Free Information: A skill that teaches the recognition of simple cues given by a social partner in everyday conversation to indicate what is interesting or important to that person.

Effect: Allows you to feel less shy in entering into conversation while at the same time prompting social partners to talk more easily about themselves.

(4) Negative Assertion: A skill that teaches acceptance of your errors and faults (without having to apologize) by strongly and sympathetically agreeing with hostile or constructive criticism of your negative qualities.

Effect: Allows you to look more comfortably at negatives in your own behavior or personality without feeling defensive and anxious, resorting to denial of real error, while at the same time reducing our critic’s anger or hostility.

Example:You didn’t do too well in (criticism).” “You’re right. I wasn’t too smart in the way I handled that, was I?” “That was a dumb thing for me to do.” Use this technique in non-legal matters ONLY!

(5) Negative Inquiry: A skill that teaches the active prompting of criticism in order to use the information (if helpful) or exhaust it (if manipulative), while prompting your critic to be more assertive and less dependent on manipulative ploys.

 Effect: Allows you more comfortably to seek out criticism about yourself in close relationships while prompting the other person to express honest negative feelings and improve communication.

Example: “What was it about … that is wrong?”  “What was it that I … that was wrong?”

(6) Self-Disclosure: A skill that teaches the acceptance and initiation of discussion of both the positive and negative aspects of your personality, behavior, lifestyle intelligence, to enhance social communication and reduce manipulation.

Effect: Allows you comfortably to disclose aspects of yourself and your life that previously caused feelings of ignorance, anxiety, or guilt.”

Example: “I like …” or “I don’t like …”, etc.

(7) Workable compromise: In using your verbal assertive skills, it is practical, whenever you feel that your self-respect is not in question, to offer a workable compromise to the other person.  You can always bargain for your material goals unless the compromise affects your personal feelings of self-respect.  If the end goal involves a matter of your self-worth, however, there can be no compromise.

(8) Reflective or Active Listening

Reflective or active listening serves a couple of purposes.  1) The target summarizes or paraphrases what the verbal bully is saying and confirms their complaint or position.  2) The target is given time to think of their response.  This technique is something like counting to ten before returning the punch!  3) If the verbal bully is attacking with a question, repeat or rephrase the question, and then answer the question.  This technique also allows the target time to think before responding. This technique is sometimes used by politicians, only they may even go so far as to change the question to one they can answer!

(9) Expand Your Repertoire of Emotional Words

 

 

(10) Find or Organize a Group to Practice these New Communication Skills

 

11) Pass on Your New Communication Skills to Someone Else.

 

Discussion

 

The big question is: can these assertive communication techniques change the personalities of the aggressive bullies and the passive aggressive shooters? Will the aggressive and the passive aggressive use these techniques to advance their own agendas? An alternative would be to place the only children who tend to be aggressive in the same classes so they are matched with students of the same aggressive personalities. In the 1980’s, China enacted their “One Child Only” policy. That would mean that China is ahead of the USA in dealing with these aggressive personalities, as all the children in China would be only children. However, as Dr. Kevin Leman has observed, “When it comes to finding the perfect mate, only children are like vanilla ice cream—they go together with everything, except another only child.” [v] It looks like China has recognized this trend of incapability of two only children as mates and has enacted a new policy of two-child families. However, this policy will not produce the middle born peace-keepers and natural negotiators.

 

As purposed in an earlier letter, a task force could be assembled at a local church consisting of persons who have been members of the Explorers group for several years. This group could act as a pilot program for proof of principle and a problem-solving task force. My observation is that at least one of these members is an only child who has been through these assertive training programs, along with a much younger only child involved in the education system. Therefore, this mix of personalities should produce a successful task force.

[i] Dr. Kevin Leman, “The Birth Order Book” “Why you Are the Way You Are”, Pub. Revell, 2009, Chapter 7

[ii] Ibid p 147

[iii] Ibid

[iv] Manuel J. Smith, Ph.D., “When I say no, I feel guilty”, Bantam Books, 1975, pp 323-324

[v] http://drleman.com/

 

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Human Trafficking for Food Production

Human Trafficking for Food Production Ver. 1.0.1

The Transportation of Youths to the USA for Farm Labor

“The Top Gun National Crises Troubleshooter,” Retired

https://gadflyblog.com/tag/trafficking

5/5/2018

Introduction

Frontline, the news program for PBS, aired the results of an “Investigation into Human Trafficking into the USA” in April of 2018.. [i] They reported a network of solicitors, smugglers, U.S. Department of Immigration Human Resources and sponsors for these imported youths.  The sponsors turned out to be food producers.  An example of egg producers in the Midwest, where a million eggs are produced daily in egg producing plants using chickens to produce the eggs was shown on film.  These youths were required to work long hours (10 hours per day), lived in substandard housing and somehow were able to attend a school of education supported by the taxpayers of the USA.

Shortage of Farm Workers

When interviewers (people no longer associated with the network) related the shortage of farm workers in the USA and how it was necessary to import foreign labor, in this case from Central America, to meet production demands, it became apparent that the citizens of the USA own this problem.  It’s no surprise that youths are required to supply the necessary labor to farm producers.

This is not a new idea; this writer picked string beans in the fields when he was in elementary school.  In fact, school did not start until after the harvest was reaped!  In fact youth labor was used after school and on weekends and during summer vacation from school.  This writer worked at the motel just across the street cleaning rooms, making beds and maintaining the grounds including the planting of petunias around the large property every year.  In addition, at age twelve, he qualified, age-wise, to have a paper route.  During high school, he worked in the local food market, boning meat to make hamburger, cutting up chickens, manning the meat counter, stocking shelves and sweeping the floor. At least in this case, he was old enough to qualify for minimum wage.

The big difference between this writer’s working as a youth for these service and food providers was that he was still under the control of his parents, who made sure advantage was not taken of him and that he was learning to work for a living.  These youths that are being imported from Central America are here with their parents’ permission, but are not under the supervision or control of their parents and advantage is being taken of them.

Where are the USA’s Youth?

In the USA’s history, youths learned how to work for a living.  They either worked on the family farm, performing functions they were capable of performing, or were, at a minimum, required to perform duties around the family home to earn an allowance.  In this twenty-first century, the USA is teaching their children to learn how to have fun.  They participate in Little League, soccer leagues, hockey leagues, basketball camps, dance school, music school, and  even summer Bible school and summer camps. So when they grow up into adulthood, they have learned to work to have fun in the sun.

America Owns the Problem

The parents of these youths have often surrendered the deed to their home for a loan to pay the smugglers to transport their children to the USA.  When the children have worked in the USA and earned enough money to pay off the loan, then the deed to their property is returned.  Therefore, the parents of these youths are sponsoring their children to go to the USA and work as farm laborers to produce food for the citizens of the USA.  This is the same scenario that the USA parents were performing, but these imported youths are not under the supervision and control of their parents and advantage is being taken of them.

One may ask why these food producers are not checking to be sure they have legal immigrant youths working in their production plants.  The short answer is that they need this labor to produce the food the USA needs and they don’t want to know if these youths are legal immigrants or not.  No knowledge implies they are not responsible.

The immigration authorities of the USA have different views on who is responsible for this situation and have arrested, convicted and imprisoned smugglers in the smuggling network.  But are those in these smuggling networks, who are helping the families living in poverty in Central America, really the guilty parties or are the citizens of the USA the guilty parties?  Advantage is being taken of these farm labor youths because the USA’s youth are not available for this type of work.

Identify the Right Problem to Solve

The first step in any troubleshooting situation is to identify the right problem to solve before attempting to solve the first option to surface.  If the right problem to solve is not where the effort is being made, then the real problem will get worse.  In this case, it looks like there are two or three issues contributing to the problem.  First, the USA’s youth are not available to perform the tasks that the immigrant youths are performing. Second, the food producers need to keep prices for their products down to supply America with food.  Third, the families in Central America are living in poverty and, in all likelihood, this is influenced by the lack of action or priorities by the citizens of the USA.  Have we overdone the child labors laws in the USA that we are now required to import youths from our neighbors in Central America?  What actions to the citizens of the USA need to take to remedy this injustice?  It is this troubleshooter’s experience that “once a problem is solved, the solution is simple,” so let’s not make this too complicated.

Q.E.D.

 

 

[i] KQED, San Francisco, “Investigation into Human Trafficking into the USA”, 04/2018

National Security and Worship

National Security and Worship

“The Top Gun National Crises Troubleshooter”, Retired

https://gadflyblog.com/tag/worship

4/28/2018

 

The purpose of this letter is to keep you in the loop of discussions concerning National Security and Worship.  I am presently in discussions with two groups: The Task Force at a local community church and a young pastor (with a college age son) connected with the Southern Baptist Convention.  In regard to justification for “Worship”, both these groups brought forward I Timothy (Paul passing the Gospel Baton to the much younger Timothy) as justification for “Worship”.

As a National Crises Troubleshooter for the past 55 years (with a short break for college where I graduated at the top of my class and received an offer to come to Livermore at the Lawrence Livermore National Laboratory where I earned the reputation as “The Top Gun National Crises Troubleshooter”), my interests, of course, include national security.  I learned about national security of the Israelite nation while teaching fourth grade Sunday school at TC.  It appears the Israelites had a slight problem understanding the guidelines that were given to them that would have made their new nation successful.  It also appears the Apostles had a slight problem with understanding the instructions that the messenger (the Representative of the Creator of the Universe, or “RoCoU”) they called Jesus gave to them on His exit from this planet Earth.

The Time Line:

  • The Israelites took the Ten Guidelines for a successful nation as literal commands.
  • The Israelites actually made a religion around these Ten Guidelines they took as Ten Commandments.
  • The Israelites were overrun by their neighbors the Babylonians and their elites forced into exile.
  • While in exile, the Israelite elites recorded the first five books of the Old Testament, which included their Ten Commandments.
  • The Israelites were allowed to return to their destroyed homeland and rebuild.
  • The Israelites were conquered by the Romans.
  • The RoCoU came to Earth as a seed in a virgin called Mary.
  • He grew up in this Israelite community now controlled by the Romans.
  • On obtaining the age of about thirty, He took on his assignment to form a task force that would take his teachings throughout the world.
  • After about three years of teaching and forming this task force, He put into action the path to return back to his home somewhere in the universe.
  • To travel through empty space, His body had to change from matter into energy.  This new body form would enable Him to leave this planet and make His way back home. He had to die and resurrect from the dead to change into this new body form of energy. [i]
  • After His resurrection from the dead and before leaving this planet, He instructed his followers to: “Go then, preach the good news about the kingdom.  Do not lay down any rule beyond what I determined for you, nor promulgate law like the lawgivers or else you might be dominated by it.[ii]
  • What this RoCoU, who they called Jesus, taught his followers during his time on Earth would now be called a paradigm shift.  A new paradigm is not dependent on the old or existing paradigm but is entirely a new way of interpreting the exiting data. [iii]
  • The followers of the RoCoU – the Apostles including Paul (Saul) – could not separate this new paradigm from the old or existing paradigm and what they brought to the world was a hybrid of the old and new paradigm.  In other words, they put their own perspective (spin) on the teachings of the RoCoU.
  • The four books that are now available that present the teachings of the RoCoU without adding their own perspective (spin) to the evidence are: Mark, Luke I & II (also known as Acts), the Gospel of Thomas (thought possibly to be one of the “Q” sources, which was a hypothetical first century list of Jesus’s sayings referenced by both Mathew and Luke, (with a wide range of possible dates from the mid-first century to the fourth century), the Gospel of Mary (attributed to the teachings of Mary Magdalene, but probably written in the second century by non-Jews (Gentiles)). [iv]
  • Athanasius, The Archbishop of Alexandria, who sent out an Easter letter all over Egypt in the spring of 367, ordering believers to reject what be called ‘illegitimate and secret books’…. also included a list of twenty-seven books of which he approved, calling them the ‘springs of salvation’.  Strikingly, the twenty-seven books he names in this letter are precisely those that came to constitute the collection we call the ‘New Testament’ for which this letter provides our earliest known list.“
  • “But apparently some monks defied the archbishop’s order to reject all the rest; instead, they saved and protected over fifty texts from their library by sealing them in a heavy jar and burying them away from the monastery walls, under the cliff where they were found sixteen hundred years later[v] (1945).  Is this then a time capsule?
  • The books of I & II Timothy were evidently written by Paul while he was in chains in Rome. The aged Paul is passing the proverbial torch of the Gospel to the much younger Timothy, who Paul was quite familiar with through Timothy’s mother and grandmother.  Paul, in his first letter to Timothy in chapter 2 of the NIV Bible, is telling Timothy how he wants the women of the church to dress, wear their hair and accessories appropriate for “women to perform good deeds, appropriate for women who profess to worship God.”
  • Considering our National Security is at risk I don’t think the mention of “worship” in I Timothy can justify not following the second of the Ten Guidelines: a successful nation should not be overrun by its enemies!
  • In general, Paul’s theology is that Christians sacrificing their bodies to God as workman for God. This is Paul’s new definition of “worship.”
  • Does this new definition of “worship” exempt us from the benefits provided by the second of the Ten Guidelines for a successful nation?  Or does this new definition result in a nation operating at such a low operating efficiency that their national debt becomes unpayable with their GDP?  As our second president John Adams stated, “There are two ways to conquer a nation: war and debt.”
  •  My personal experience is that people who place their life’s priority on worship cause much of the turmoil in the world.  It seems we cannot all agree on who or how we are worshiping and this results in discourse, both nationally and personally.  It looks as though worship creates “sacred cows” that must be protected to the death.
  • My high school girlfriend did not receive any of my letters when I came out west. She was brought up Catholic and I was brought up Lutheran, so those were justifiable reasons for someone who has a priority in protecting their “sacred cow” to intercept my letters.  When I got her on the phone, planning to attend a 35-year class reunion, the first thing I heard was, “You have a lot of explaining to do!”  She had been searching for me for thirty-five years!
  • When my wife of Catholic upbringing reacted to my joining a Baptist Church (a heretic church as she had been taught), she felt a great need to rescue the children from the heretics and filed and proceeded through with a divorce!
  • My daughter, who was twelve at the conclusion of these divorce proceedings, was in the full custody of her mother and no visitation rights to her father.  My daughter never received any of the half dozen expensive music boxes that I brought to her home with her mother for her birthday and Christmas gifts.  Was her mother protecting her children from the heretics?  What kind of worship do these actions represent?  Is the church of your youth a “sacred cow?”
  • Worship does not create cohesion of those who call themselves Christian, but worship causes discourse not only among Christians, but of non-Christians.
  • I have accounts of two Protestant churches that I’ve been involved with during the past thirty-eight years that illustrate the same point as the two above, and that is that worship creates “sacred cows” that must be defended at all cost even to the detriment of church members in good standing.
  • The Protestant churches have a major inertia problem preventing them from moving forward with new enlightenment.  That problem is professional Christians.  Professional Christians must “preach to the choir.”  That is they have to teach the children and adults of the church the same doctrine as their parents and themselves were taught or these church members will vote with their feet and leave that church for another church, taking their church contributions with them.  This leaves the professional Christians without an income.  Paul, as a tent maker, had the right idea. Paul being supported by the members of his churches was a good idea in theory, but not practical in execution.
  • Then there are those who worship God with a different name or in a different tradition than any of the Christian sects.  Some of these extremists are threating our own national security today!
  • Claiming that we can redefine worship to give a different purpose to our lives, as Paul intended, is well and good in theory but, in practice, the same results are obtained as if these were the worship of idols as stated in the second of the Ten Guidelines for a successful nations!
  • Worship is not mentioned or even given and honorable mention in John chapters 14 & 16.  The focus on the departure from this planet Earth is on the RoCoU sending us a personal advocate, counselor, Holy Spirit, etc. to guide us through this life on Earth.

Summary

 

In regard to national security, nothing that man has thought up could surpass this gift of a personal guide through life. There is no possibility that a “sacred cow” could be made of this gift and therefore not a threat to our national security or discourse within our nation among our citizens.

 

Conclusion

In a nutshell, the Ten Guidelines, Ten Codes of Conduct, or, as the religious demand, Ten Commandments recorded in Exodus chapter twenty were given to a new-forming nation that was given land to build their nation.  These Ten Guidelines, when followed, would give this new nation a high economic operating efficiency.   Their national debt would not be skyrocketing out of control, exceeding their capacity to even make payments on the interest to the loans from other countries.  They would be a stronger nation than their competitors’ nations and would not be overrun by their neighbors.  These Ten Guidelines are all about national security and influence to the world.

Q.E.D.

[i] Albert Einstein, “Theory of Relativity”, E=MC2; Energy and Matter are interchangeable

[ii] The Gospel of Mary, “THE NAG HAMMADI SCRIPTURES”, “THE REVISED AND UPDATED TRANSLATION OF SACRED GNOSTIC TEXTS,”, The International Edition, Edited by Marvin Meyer, 2007, P 742

[iii] Thomas Samuel Kuhn ; July 18, 1922 – June 17, 1996),https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paradigm

[iv] Ibid iI, pp133-138, p 739,

[v] Ibid iI, pp6-7

Ten Commandments or Ten Guidelines

Ten Commandments or Ten Guidelines Ver. 1.0.1

“The Top Gun National Crises Troubleshooter”, Retired

https://gadflyblog.com/tag/ten-guidelines/

3/21/2018

Introduction

I have been researching the history of the Israelite Nation and New Testament writings.  As a National Crises Troubleshooter of some forty years, I have found it necessary to identify the problem correctly before attempting to solve a problem. In my research I came across a paper published by Diana Baumrind of Cal Berkeley (http://persweb.wabash.edu/facstaff/hortonr/articles%20for%20class/baumrind.pdf, EBSCO Pub. 2003, PP 890-91/). In this paper, the researchers observed two different styles of parents: authoritarian and authoritative parents.  In short, authoritarian parents issue commands to their children and authoritative parents act as guides to their children. I applied this information to Exodus chapter 20.  I found an authoritative parent.

 

Authoritarian vs Authoritative Perspectives

 

This Israelite nation had been given land to build a new nation. They were, according to my NIV Bible, given the Ten Commandments to follow, supposedly to make them a strong nation, economically efficient and stronger than competing nations.  An authoritative parent would have given Ten Guidelines to follow, and if they followed these Ten Guidelines, they would become a successful nation.  There is a big difference between commands and guidelines – it is a sense of one’s perspective.

 

Commands Vs Guidelines

 

Commands leave no room for the intellect of man; commands are to be followed verbatim.  A guideline leaves room for the intellect of man and makes them responsible for their own success.   Applying this metric to Exodus 20:4-6 gives us a different perspective. “You shall not make for yourself an idol in the form of anything in heaven above or on the earth beneath or in the waters below.  You shall not bow down to them or worship them; for I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God, punishing the children for the sin of the fathers to the third and fourth generation of those who hate me, but showing love to thousands who love me and keep my commandments.”

 


 

The Investigative Process

 

The historians and archeologists have investigated the history of these Israelites.  Historians place the writing of the first five books of the Bible during the time they were exiled in Babylon. Thinking that their nation had come to an end, they were motivated to record their history.  The first responsibility of an unbiased investigator is to “separate the facts from opinion.”  Applying this time-tested investigative protocol, that has been used since the seventieth century, to Exodus 20:4-6 results in some extra add-on supplemental information. A command is just that – a command. It does not include an explanation of the command or any supplemental information – it is just a command. That given, Exodus 20:6 is out for sure, and Exodus 20:5 is questionable as it gives superfluous information and authority.  The word “worship” in Exodus 20:5 does look to have some relevance to the Christian society of the twenty-first century.

 

Worship Centers in the USA and International

 

Did the Christian Church not get the message of Exodus 20:4(5)?  This writer has noticed that children who became adults and were raised by authoritarian parents tend to see things from an authoritarian point of view, which is that instructions are commands. Children who became adults and were raised by authoritative parents tend to see instructions as guidelines.  If these Ten Guidelines were meant to develop a strong nation, economically with a high national operating efficiency, then why do we have so many centers for worship in this nation?  Does not worship cause division rather than cohesion?

 

We’ve got Trouble, Trouble, Trouble, Right Here in the USA, It Starts with “V” and that stands for “Visualization”

We’ve got Trouble, Trouble, Trouble, Right Here in the USA, It Starts with “V” and that stands for “Visualization” Ver. 1.1.0

The Philosopher

The Top Gun National Crises Troubleshooter, Retired

https://gadflyblog.com/tag/visualization

May 7, 2013, Revised 1/24/2018

The Making of a Troubleshooter

I was identified by my sergeant as a troubleshooter when I was 22 years old serving in the United States Air Force in the South Pacific as a flight-line jet engine mechanic.  My sergeant then assigned me to all the troubleshooting jobs and tasked me with giving a second opinion on the troubleshooting that others had performed when there were long wait times for parts.  I seemed to have the ability to visualize the processes that were involved in a system in these jet engines and visualized a solution.  Later in life, I used the same skills as a troubleshooter for the energy and defense departments at the Lawrence Livermore National Laboratory.  It has always intrigued me why I had these skills and others did not.

Inherited Skills

An inheritance from my father and mother was my conclusion for these visualization skills.  My father was a doctor of veterinary medicine and my mother was also a college graduate and never went to bed without a book.  I was the youngest of eight children by my father and the last of four children by my mother.  My father was 51 years old when I was born and my mother was 39 years of age.  This theory gave validity to the idea of skills being inherited from our parents, a phenomenon easily observed in celebrity actors, musicians and public personalities.

DNA Passed Down to the Following Generations

We know that our DNA is passed down to our children and to their children.  We now know that our DNA changes as we learn new skills and knowledge.  The “improved” DNA is passed down through the generations.  Both of my parents were very well experienced in life with much improved DNA to pass down to me.  Thus, the children in these families receive different DNA as DNA is improved with life’s experiences and by learning.

Visualization a Learned Skill through our Environment

Lately I recalled my early childhood experience of listing to stories every Sunday evening, as the neighborhood kids and I were laid out in front of the floor model radio in our middle-class home, listening to “Gunsmoke,” “Johnny Dollar Insurance Investigator” and more.  As we listened to these stories, we visualized them in our minds, and I think this is where this visualization skill was developed.  Was it developed in many others?  Probably, but not many made it to the forefront of technology.  I can recall some of my classmates at about the second grade level talk about watching “Zorro” on the television. This would have been about 1952.  Our family did not have a television until I was in high school so I had more visualization training than some classmates did.  I recall conversations with others who grew up in this generation saying that “Gunsmoke” on the radio was much better than “Gunsmoke” on the television.  The visualizations we created in our own minds were better than what Hollywood had produced.

The High Tech World

I now believe it was this early training in visualization and inherited DNA that enabled me to visualize the processes of systems in the high-tech world as they were applied to physics and mechanical systems in a troubleshooting environment.

The Visualization-Design Process

When I was designing hardware for use in Physics Experiments, I would find a quiet place to sit back and visualize the design in my mind and then go to my Drawing Board and record the design that was in my mind.  This design process is significantly difference than creating a design one line at a time.  One other notable example for using this method of “Visualization-Design Process” was “Nikola Tesla (Serbian Cyrillic: Никола Тесла; 10 July 1856 – 7 January 1943) was a Serbian-American inventor, electrical engineer, mechanical engineer, physicist, and futurist who is best known for his contributions to the design of the modern alternating current (AC) electricity supply system.” [i] It is reported that he would design his systems in his mind before he picked up his pencil and drew the design on paper. [ii] This visualization design process is similar to the experiences reported by Elon Musk CEO of Tesla Motors, commercial space program SpaceX. Freemont, California, a transplant to the USA from South Africa/Canada. [iii]  Is the USA in need of importing our visualization leaders from other countries?

Conclusion

The conclusion of this insight must be obvious. Let’s get back to reading our children stories from books and re-empower the radio stories for our children to listen to so that they can use their own visualization skills to envision the stories.  Let’s lose the television, video movies, video games, YouTube, and any other sources of distraction that gets in the way of visualization training of our children. We will end up with a much empowered group of adults capable of visualization, who are now an almost “lost generation” of visualization specialists.   This may take a few generations as it certainly looks like the passing of DNA from one generation to the next is also involved in the “Visualization Process”.

QED

[i] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nikola_Tesla/

[ii] http://shopPBS.org/, “Tesla, AMERICAN EXPERIENCE”, DVD, March-2017

[iii] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Elon_Musk/

The Bullies

The Bullies ver. 2.0.2

The Top Gun National Crises Troubleshooter, Retired

https://gadflyblog.com/tag/bullies

12/17/2017

Introduction

Bullies come in different shapes and sizes and from different families of origin, with and without siblings.   There are three basic types of bullies: physical bullies, verbal bullies and in-your-face bullies.  There are several well-known tactics to deal with these bullies.  These bullies think that their behavior is normal, as many have no doubt learned to be a bully by the time they were six years old. [i]

Physical Bullies

Physical bullies are those children or young adults you meet on the way to school.  This was prevalent at least during the days when we allowed our children to walk to school – a rare occasion in today’s world – as some of these physical bullies were allowed to grow up without correction or, in other circumstances, in unsupervised areas or even from supervision itself!  The standard format to take care of these young bullies was to show them that you would not be bullied.

Case Study I

This writer was serving our country in support of LBJ’s War in Vietnam, and was living in a barracks known as “chicken coops,” as the barracks were screened in from top to bottom, with a wall in between.  They remained this way all year round.  Between two chicken coops was the latrine with showers.  One evening I was walking from the latrine dressed only in my shorts and wearing thongs.  Two young men approached me at the entrance.  One of them said to the other, “Watch this for how to start a fight.”  I was standing as in parade rest with my hands free.  I have seen this approach before in a scene from the film, “Butch Cassidy and the Sundance Kid,” where Butch Cassidy, played by Paul Newman, approached one of his underlings who was challenging his authority.  Butch let him have it with a kick to his manhood.  As this young man came at me intending to do the same, unaware of my fast reflexes, I sidestepped his kick and got my right arm under his right arm, thrust it upwards and came down with an elbow to his kidney zone.  He ended up sprawled out next to the water cooler. I kicked off my thongs and took up the karate ready-to-fight position. His buddy said something to him to call him off and he said, “We’re done.”  I put my thongs back on and returned to my bunk never to see this young man again.

 Case Study II   

My son reported that a physical bully was making it difficult for him to get to his grade school, which was no more than a walk of four blocks. At this time, I had physical custody of my son and also had two roommates who were brothers. Both of these brothers held black belts in karate.  I asked one of these brothers to teach my son enough karate to take care of this bully that was making it difficult for him to walk to school.  After several sessions with this black belt karate instructor, my son made his karate knowledge known to this physical bully.  He never had a problem walking to school after this one exhibition.

Case Study III

In high school a lastborn in his family (another birth-order to find bullies) would see me coming down the hallway carrying a stack of books in front of me.  He took advantage of this situation and slapped the books out of my hands to the floor!  On another occasion when we were taking an unsupervised exam, I passed in front of him with my paper in my hand.  He again slapped my paper to the floor.  I reached down with my left hand and picked up the paper.  With my right hand I backhanded him and knocked him to the floor.  He got up and attacked me with both his fists flying.  Having performed research into boxing myself, I deflected all of his attempts to land a punch until we hear the supervising teacher returning. Later when I was in the gym putting on my basketball shoes, he approached me and apologized for his behavior.

Although the Representative of the Creator, a.k.a. Jesus, taught us to turn the other cheek when hit, he was encompassed in an authoritarian society and to return a punch would certainly result in death.  In this situation it is better to turn the other cheek and show them that you can take their bullying.

Verbal Bullies

There are four categories of verbal bullies. The first category includes those that grow up with a same-sex sibling within a couple of years of their age.  If they grew up bullying this younger sibling, then that personality trait would likely have become dominate by the time they were six years old. [ii]  If they had grown up with more knowledgeable parents, (authoritative rather than authoritarian)[iii]  they may have grown up looking after their younger sibling. But in any case, they certainly would have been more assertive than their younger sibling. In the workforce these will be the “take charge” people and they will want the work done “their way.”   The second category includes those that grow up being mostly exposed to older adults such as the only child or a distant lastborn child.  There are two categories of only children: the pure only child and the functional only child. Functional only children grew up as only children for various reasons (e.g. separation of family of origin, death of a sibling, more than six years between them and the next same sex sibling).[iv] Several of our U.S. presidents fall into the category of functional only children (Andrew Jackson, Abraham Lincoln, Herbert Hoover, Theodore Roosevelt, Franklin D. Roosevelt, Gerald R. Ford, Bill Clinton, George W. Bush and Barack Obama). [v] Vladimir Vladimirovich Putin, the Russian president, is an example of a true only child. Even the little prince or princess that gets treated as special can develop this “only child syndrome.” For example, Joseph in the Old Testament was treated as special and even given a special coat to wear; he was sold off as a slave by his siblings but ended up the second in command in Egypt.  3) The third category includes those that demonstrate verbal attacking rants (VARs) often right in your face.  The origin of this behavior is varied; sometimes it is an inherited trait or it could be the result of a medical surgery procedure.  4) The fourth category is the highly educated bully (I know more than you bully).  These are probably the most difficult bullies to deal with as they are probably also either a firstborn or only child or a younger sibling following their role model older sibling.

The older sibling, with a near younger same-sex sibling, that turned out to be a bully will have a communication style of “I win, you lose.”  The only child often possesses a communication style of “in your face” or “I want this” or I want that.” The “I” word will come up often, as in “look what I have accomplished,”  “Look what I did,” etc.  A functional only child may even be made to feel more important if they experienced the death of a sibling that was close in age to them, as they may now have been treated as extra special by their parents and were given anything they wanted and more. A characterization of the only child syndrome by my late sister with an only child son-in-law was, “They are good people, and they just need to be mellowed a bit.” This was also characterized by my niece as, “It’s my way or the highway.” According to Dr. Kevin Leman, “They know they are right, even when they are not.” [vi] And in Dr. Leman’s “The Birth Order Book,” he writes, “Show me a young person that prefers to be around older people than people their own age, and I will show you an only child.”[vii]

Case Study IV

A few decades ago, I was being introduced to my new research partner; she was being introduced to me by the lead program manager in my laboratory.  She was going to design the experiments and I was going to perform the experiments. The first words from her were, “I want this over there and I want that over here.”  She gave these orders in such a strong manner that she blew me off my chair!  I picked myself up and stated, “I don’t want that over there and I don’t want this over here. I want that over there and I want this over here!”  She looked at the program manager with an open mouth.  The program manager stated, “See, he can do that too.”

This was not an unusual confrontation at this national employer, as there was a filter on the front door that only allowed “The Best of the Best” to enter though these doors.  With that type of filter on the front door in an academically-minded institution, the ones who meet these qualities will most likely be the firstborn in their family of origin or an only child, as these are the typical academic achievers. [viii]  Therefore, this institution had continuous contracts with professional communication instructors, and when it was needed, we got sent to rehabilitation to produce teamwork communication, a.k.a., assertive win-win communication skills.

This young lady, who graduated at the top of her class at MIT and was the only child of two PhD’s, certainly met the requirements to be the best of the best to enter through the front door.  I myself had been pulled aside by my manager of the time and told to “lighten up.” I received my invitation to attend these special teamwork communication classes. I, too, had graduated at the top of my college graduating class and both of my parents were college graduates and my father was a doctor of veterinary medicine. For my generation, I represented less than three percent of the US population in the families of origin.

Although I was the youngest of eight and my father was fifty-one years old and my mother thirty-nine years old when I was born, I still qualified as a functional only child. Like many first generation middle class parents, they had more children than they could send to college.  When I was still on my tricycle, three of my sisters came home from out-of-state college to hear that their college funding was being terminated and that it was more important for males to go to college than females, who in those days’ women went to college to marry a college man.  In my last semester in high school, my father died and it was determined by my five sisters that I was too stupid to go to college.

Good things often result from not-so-good circumstances.  I ended up in the U.S. Air Force in LBJ’s War in South Vietnam.  My sergeant recognized that I had natural troubleshooting abilities as a jet engine mechanic on the flight line, which was something I would never have recognized myself.  After my tour of active duty ended, I enrolled in a technical college. My Physical Metallurgy professor employed me to help him with a research project one summer.  I brought his project to a successful conclusion; He thought I was the most advanced student to ever come through that college.  When brought on staff at this national research institution, I brought several programs that were in trouble across the finish line successfully. When this young lady from MIT and I joined a special task force to troubleshoot a major issue for the Department of Defense, where she was made taskforce leader, and I was the troubleshooter, we worked well as a team. When I got my insight to the cause of the problem and put this insight up to the program leader, another experimental group verified the information and the task-force was disbanded.  When this young lady from MIT and now Stanford with a Master’s degree left this institution to do more domestic projects, she identified me as the “nation’s secret weapon,” and I accepted this status as “The Top Gun National Crises Troubleshooter.

The Importance of having Professional Communicators on Contract

This case study is presented to show how valuable professional interpersonal communication instructors are to an organization.  This writer has noticed that some interpersonal communication seminars in churches tend to lean on theology or philosophy to teach interpersonal communications.  Some colleges teach communications classes as a class in human resources, where the focus is on “The Myers–Briggs Type Indicator,” (MBTI) where one can find out their strengths to succeed in a profession and what personalities make up an effective team. In fact, MBTI was first formulated to place women in the workforce effectively during World War II. It now finds wide use in many areas.  Dr. Kevin Leman is internationally known as the guru of Adlerian Psychology that focuses on birth order in the family of origin and the skill packages that are developed from this learned environmental knowledge.   Instructors like Manuel J. Smith, Ph.D. promote hands-on techniques to be used during a conversation. He states, “It is not how you became what you are that’s important, but what works.”  His techniques of what works with bullies and manipulators include: “Broken Record,” “Fogging,” “Free Information,” “Negative Assertion,” “Negative Inquiry,” “Self-Disclosure,” and “Workable Compromise.”[ix]

Interpersonal Communication Techniques Explained [x]

Broken Record: A skill, by calm repetition – saying what you want over and over again – teaches persistence without you having to rehearse arguments or angry feelings beforehand, in order to be ‘up’ for dealing with others.

Effect: Allows you to feel comfortable in ignoring manipulative verbal side traps, argumentative baiting, irrelevant logic, while sticking to your desired point.

Fogging: A skill that teaches acceptance of manipulative criticism by calmly acknowledging to your critic the probability that there may be some truth in what he says, yet allows you to remain your own judge of what you do.

Example: That’s true. I …”

Effect: Allows you to receive criticism comfortably without becoming anxious or defensive, while giving no reward to those using manipulative criticism.  

Free Information: A skill that teaches the recognition of simple cues given by a social partner in everyday conversation to indicate what is interesting or important to that person.

Effect: Allows you to feel less shy in entering into conversation while at the same time prompting social partners to talk more easily about themselves. 

Negative Assertion: A skill that teaches acceptance of your errors and faults (without having to apologize) by strongly and sympathetically agreeing with hostile or constructive criticism of your negative qualities.

Effect: Allows you to look more comfortably at negatives in your own behavior or personality without feeling defensive and anxious, resorting to denial of real error, while at the same time reducing our critic’s anger or hostility.

Example: “You didn’t do too well in (criticism).” “You’re right. I wasn’t too smart in the way I handled that, was I?” “That was a dumb thing for me to do.” Use this technique in non-legal matters ONLY!

Negative Inquiry: A skill that teaches the active prompting of criticism in order to use the information (if helpful) or exhaust it (if manipulative), while prompting your critic to be more assertive and less dependent on manipulative ploys.

 Effect: Allows you more comfortably to seek out criticism about yourself in close relationships while prompting the other person to express honest negative feelings and improve communication.

Example: “What was it about … that is wrong?”  “What was it that I … that was wrong?”

Self-Disclosure: A skill that teaches the acceptance and initiation of discussion of both the positive and negative aspects of your personality, behavior, lifestyle intelligence, to enhance social communication and reduce manipulation.

Effect: Allows you comfortably to disclose aspects of yourself and your life that previously caused feelings of ignorance, anxiety, or guilt.” 

Example: “I like …” or “I don’t like …”, etc.

Workable compromise: In using your verbal assertive skills, it is practical, whenever you feel that your self-respect is not in question, to offer a workable compromise to the other person.  You can always bargain for your material goals unless the compromise affects your personal feelings of self-respect.  If the end goal involves a matter of your self-worth, however, there can be no compromise.

The Bully Solution 

The solution to the physical bully has not changed over the centuries, although the Representative of the Creator of the Universe, a.k.a. Jesus, said to turn the other cheek. The standard action for a physical bully is to let them know that you are not going to be bullied (an option more applicable in a “Free Society”). The bully probably does not even know that they are a bully as they have been this way all of their lives. For them, this is normal; they just need a notification of being a bully.

There are a few solutions to a verbal bully. If it is attacking criticism or rebuttal, this can be neutralized and made beneficial by a technique call “fogging.” [xi]  Fogging is built on the metaphor that receiving criticism is like a stone that is thrown at a brick wall. The stone will rebound and the criticizer can pick the stone up again and throw it at the target.  However, if the target acts like a fog bank, the stone disappears harmlessly into the fog and defenses are mitigated.

The Rants

The assertive stance is a way of allowing their rant to continue unhindered.  This technique is useful for the in-your-face rants.  The assertive stance is feet spread at shoulder width, hands clasped behind the back and head and eyes straight ahead (the “Parade Rest” position). This allows the target of the rant to avoid getting involved with the rant.  For those who have formed a habit of rants, especially if it is over a phone, a more active tactic is required in response.  In this case, the target simply addresses the rants at the same time as they are coming until the rant ceases.  Then a question can be put forward such as “Now what did you want to talk about?”

Case Study V

It has been observed in females younger than middle aged that may have had the major female surgery to remove their reproductive system tend to exhibit this in-your-face rant (rights to privacy prevent confirming this data). I first noticed this rant behavior within a week of my wife’s major surgery.  Not only face to face or nose to nose, but over the telephone as well.  I once received one of these calls while in the kitchen with two of my housemates.  I held the phone out at arm’s length.  Both of my housemates agreed that no one should have to listen to this.  After about ten years of these phone calls, I received one while in my lab at work.  One of my coworkers suggested, after a similar incident involving a “Type A” project leader (people who are known to “unload on someone”), to give it back to them as it is being dished out.  On this occasion I tried out this suggestion with my now ex-wife and fed information back as fast as I was receiving this attacking rant.  She finally stopped the rant and I asked, “What was it that you wanted to talk about?” I took the position that one cannot go out and find a new mother for their children, and the situation had to be handled the best that it could be handled.

On the wife’s first exploratory visit to the surgeon, he told her that a number of women who had this operation ended up divorced.  When she brought this information home we both agreed that divorce was not an issue about which  we needed to be concerned.  Within six months of this major surgery, she filed for a divorce.  Now, decades later, our son is functioning as her significant other, as it seems that this is the only relationship she is able to maintain with her tendency to go into the attacking rant mode.  I have also met some young, middle aged, sons who seem to be functioning as their mother’s significant other.  How wide spread is this phenomenon?

Case Study VI 

I was on a troubleshooting assignment at a manufacturing plant on the east coast, trying to solve the production problems with a state-of-the-art high field superconductor.  This was not a large facility and the offices were adjacent to the production line.  They had what they called their “meter-high quality control officer.” She actually was about a meter (three feet) tall.  It didn’t seem to matter what one said to her to put her into attacking rant mode.  My office was nearest the production line and I could hear the general manager trying to calm her down in a distant closed office.  He was receiving what can only be considered as extreme abuse from this meter-high QC officer.  It took about a year and a half to solve the production problems and bring this project to a successful conclusion.  On returning back to the west coast, this general manager, who was a personal friend of our program manager (both were Englishmen in the same vocation), visited us in California. He had been dismissed as the general manager and he had come to realize that his brain had been significantly abused and that he was no longer able to make good executive decisions, bringing to the point that one must either control these verbal abusers or face serious brain damage from their attacking rants.

Sexual Assault by a Bully

In the present age, we are seeing more reports of sexual misconduct by bullies.  It is not surprising to see some of these men, who have employment power over women and are not physically or mentally attractive to women, ending up using their employment power to sexually abuse their subordinates.  This abuse may have its origin in an over-controlled society. Brothels have been in use for centuries to meet the needs of men and women who otherwise could not find a sexual partner.  Brothels that are well-regulated by health authorities are still functioning in parts of the U.S.  Regulated brothels would reduce or eliminate underage prostitution, rape, assaults against women and human trafficking.  Brothels offered up as a career option instead of a vice would certainly be going against the grain in a religiously controlled society. Both options of career or vice have their positives and negatives.

Reflective or Active Listening

Reflective or active listening serves a couple of purposes.  1) The target summarizes or paraphrases what the verbal bully is saying and confirms their complaint or position.  2) The target is given time to think of their response.  This technique is something like counting to ten before returning the punch!  3) If the verbal bully is attacking with a question, repeat or rephrase the question, and then answer the question.  This technique also allows the target time to think before responding. This technique is sometimes used by politicians, only they may even go so far as to change the question to one they can answer!  Q.E.D.  

[i] Dr. Kevin Leman, “The New Birth Oder Book”, 2015. http://drleman.com/

[ii] ibid

[iii] Diana Baumrind, http://persweb.wabash.edu/facstaff/hortonr/articles%20for%20class/baumrind.pdf, EBSCO Pub. 2003, PP 890-91

[iv] Ibid (i)

[v] http://deadpresidents.tumblr.com/post/15457991558/which-presidents-were-the-oldest-child-the/

[vi] Dr. Kevin Leman, “The First Born Advantage”, pub. Revell, 2008, p69

[vii] Dr. Kevin Leman, “The Birth Order Book”, pub. Revell, 2015, pp131-148

[viii] Ibid (i)

[ix] Manuel J. Smith, PhD., “When I say no, I feel guilty”, Bantam Books, 1975, pp 323-324

[x] Ibid

[xi] Ibid p323, pp 104-115

Ten Simple Codes of Conduct

Ten Simple Codes of Conduct Ver. 1.0.1

The Philosopher

https://gadflyblog.com/tag/codes-of-conduct/

5/16/2017

Copyright 2017

Introduction

These Ten Simple Codes of Conduct have been misinterpreted since they were first written over three thousand years ago.  They were meant to provide a new nation with an infrastructure that would make them an economic powerhouse and greater than their competitors that would want to take their land from them. These Ten Simple Codes of Conduct when followed, would produce a nation with a high national economic operating efficiency (NEOE), resulting in what would not be a continuing growing national debt as we (the USA) now have, but a national economic surplus.

These Ten Simple Codes of Conduct have been made into a religious symbol by labeling them as “The Ten Commandments” – commandments that must be followed under the authority of God.  Therefore, under a “separation of church and state” policy, a growing number of individuals and organizations think they should be removed from public property.  The Ten Commandments were never meant to be religious and this is probably the most disastrous action that could have been initiated onto these Ten Imperatives.  They were meant to develop a strong infrastructure in this new nation making them economically stronger than their competitors that would take their land from them.  It is the nation’s economic vitality that makes a nation strong, not its many weapons and troops on the ground.   Philosophically, the Ten Commandments are hypothetical Imperatives and not categorical imperatives.  A categorical imperative is something one does because it is the right thing to do.  A hypothetical imperative means there is a reward for following the imperative. German Philosopher, Immanuel Kant, of the eighteenth century, thought that there was only one categorical imperative, as he stated, “Act as if the maxim of thy action were to become by thy will a universal law of nature[i].    The reward for following the Ten Simple Codes of Conduct is that “we will live long in the land that has been given to us.” (Exodus 20:12) Thus, the Ten Simple Codes of Conduct are actually Ten Hypothetical Imperatives.

Two Ways to Enslave a Nation

“There are two ways to enslave a nation – with war and with debt.”
John Adams, second president of the USA

We are in an economic war with our international competitors and the nation that has the highest NEOE will own the other nation’s debt.  Theoretically, the interest on the national debt can grow to exceed our taxable gross national product (GDP) and the cost to operate our country.  In this case, we will have become slaves to the nation holding our national debt.  The Ten Simple Codes of Conduct were, and are meant to, form a strong national infrastructure and create a high NEOE, therefore, making us more competitive in the international economic war.  This is not by the will of a “higher power” but first year economic principles.  The lower a nation’s NEOE, the higher the national debt will be. The higher the nation’s NEOE, the lower the national debt will be, and there may even be a surplus in the budget.

Explanation of the Ten Simple Codes of Conduct [ii]

  1. You shall have no other gods before me: Would not any parent tell their children this same thing – that they are the ones responsible for their children’s well-being, so don’t seek advice or help from anyone else. There is a higher power who is the one with all the resources and He’s the one who is willing to give us the resources we need to live on this planet. Just as our parents gave us what we needed to live on this planet Earth, so does this higher power, a.k.a. the Creator of the Universe (CoU).
  2. Do not make yourself an idol: These instructions are to a people that are naturally very religious and they are going to find something to worship that is going to take up their time, energy and resources. This can be extrapolated to modern times to such things as: alcohol, tobacco, drugs, porn, gambling and many more things that can take control of our lives.  The Russian physiologist, Ivan Pavlov, showed us how easy it is to form a habit through conditioned response by rewarding ourselves for a certain behavior, a.k.a. “classical conditioning” [iii].
  3. You shall not misuse the name of the Lord your God: This has been interpreted for centuries as a verbal This cannot be a verbal activity; it has to be an action activity.   Do not intend to bring harm, discomfort or kill anyone in the name of God, a.k.a. the CoU.  This applies to a nation as well as to individuals that make up that nation.  This cannot be both verbal and action, because if it were both, someone might make a verbal remark that is taken by someone else as “taking God’s name in vain” and then they chose to bring discomfort or death to the accused, which is an action in God’s name, and therefore, misusing the name of God.   Therefore, verbal and action of the misuse of the name of God are mutually exclusive.Even the Apostle Peter did not understand that misusing the name of God is an action, as he verbally accused two capitalists of withholding funds to the Apostles’ social program after they had sold their land and only gave part of the capital gains to the Apostles. It appears both the husband and wife may have died from a heart attack after being accused of sinning against God by Peter for withholding part of the capital gains from the sale of their property and only contributing a portion of the proceeds to the Apostles’ social fund to take care of widows and those in need. [iv]  If this is the role model we are to follow, we are in “Deep Trouble” economically!
  4. Remember the Sabbath and keep it holy: The best reference I have seen on this subject states that “The Sabbath was made for man, not man for the Sabbath.[v]   We need one day a week to recharge our batteries, and spend time with our families and friends.  Everyone needs to choose for themselves what day this will be for them.The latest investigations by this writer indicate that the seven-day week evolved from there being five stars that wandered (Planetes Asteres`), [vi] plus the sun and the moon, as Earth was thought to be the center of the universe. Nature has shown us many numbers in a Fibonacci Sequence (1, 2, 3, 5, 8, 13, 21, etc. to infinity), such as the numbers of: spring flower petals, rings on a sea shell, layers on a pine cone, stars in galaxies, etc.  The number seven does not appear in any significance in nature!  Therefore, an eight-day week, consisting of a five-day work week and a three-day weekend, would allow for one day to resupply the home with life’s necessities, one day to perform all the required maintenance on the home and one day to spend with family and friends (the Sabbath day).  Or, take as many three-day holidays as you desire. [vii]
  5. Honor your father and your mother, that you might live long, in the land I’m giving you: We need to learn from our parents and respect their wisdom and knowledge.  They have seen things firsthand that we will never see.  “Living long in this land” is an economic reality.  These Ten Simple Codes of Conduct are classified as hypothetical imperatives – something one does because there is a reward for following the imperatives. This is not by the choice of a higher power it is first-year economics.   Any nation that follows these Ten Imperatives (not necessarily the USA) will develop a strong infrastructure and a high NEOE.   The result will be that they will be stronger economically than the nations that would like to take their land from them.Modern twenty-first century technology has shown that, as we develop our skills, knowledge and abilities, our DNA also changes and reflects these improvements. Therefore, our parents and ancestors passed down their skills, knowledge and abilities though their DNA and we will pass our improved DNA to our descendants. Respecting the sources of our DNA certainly speaks of honoring your father and mother and their ancestors.
  6. You shall not murder: We will not advance socially if we are killing each other.  Each of us can contribute to the economics of the nation and we need all of our productive citizens to operate efficiently.
  7. You shall not commit adultery: This is probably one of our nation’s most complicated issues.  One really needs to connect with this Personal Counselor, Personal Advisor, or Tour Guide through Life that the Representative of the Creator of the Universe (RoCoU), a.k.a. Jesus, sent to us at the Pentecost Festival after his ascension into His world in a form that was compliant for the journey.  Notice that these are descriptive terms for what the literature calls The Holy Spirit, or the Holy Ghost. These are known as “horse labels” (“this is a horse” or “this is an elephant”).  The former are known as “descriptive labels,” as they describe what the entity does.  To connect to this Personal Advisor, one only needs to make a decision to want to connect to the Advisor, and the Advisor will find you. Just be prepared to listen to this Advisor advising you (something like “a little birdie told me”). This is all you need to do. There are no ceremonies needed – not even a declaration of your decision, as this decision is personal, private and confidential information, and it is between you and this Personal Counselor.It should be noted that adultery does not specify monogamy; it does not rule out polygamy. Having more than one spouse of either sex earning an income would upset the economy due to the fundamental law of economics: supply and demand.  Having more than one income per household causes those with only one income in their household to have to hold down two jobs or find a way to supplement their income.  Sometimes this situation results from the “Have-Nots” preying on the assets of the “Haves” and feeling justified in doing so.  Civil law would judge these single income families as law-breakers for these activities resulting in the taxpayers paying for their room and board in a government-run penal facility, contributing in-turn to a decrease in our NEOE and an increase in our national debt. [viii]  Thus extra taxes would need to be leveled on multiple income families to equilibrate for the economic reality of supply and demand.
  1. You shall not steal: Theft causes a great inefficiency in our national economic operations. These activities results in there being too many policemen’s boots on the ground trying to manage these crimes and building more prisons to hold more prisoners. It is counterproductive to increasing our GDP and increases our national debt.  This could extrapolate to the point where more of our tax dollars are spent building prisons and taking care of inmates than tax dollars allocated to educating the next generations of GDP producers. Schools and prisons are in competition with each other for funds from the taxpayers. The more funds allocated to prisons, the less funds are allocated to schools that are producing our next generation of GDP producers.
  2. You shall not give false witness against thy neighbor: Courts are inherently inefficient; we should not waste our tax dollars on false reports of crimes committed.  It costs dollars to defend oneself against false charges, which may be the objective of the one making the false report, but we must think of the cost to the taxpayers as well as the effects on our NEOE.
  3. You shall not covet thy neighbor’s house or wife: Be content with what you have. Legal cost to manage greed can be staggering and the negative social issues that result from divorces are numerous and astounding.   These are all a drain on our NEOE and can have lasting effects on others in our society down to the next three or four generations.

Conclusion

The Ten Commandments have been misinterpreted since their inception.  We see their dramatization every year by Cecil B. De Mill’s presentation of The Ten Commandments and Charlton Heston’s portrayal of Moses coming down from Mount Saini with the these Ten Commandments written in stone.

Nobody likes to be commanded to do anything.  This is a loss of their freedom. Or is it?  My canine friend understands a number of commands, but these commands do not take away from his freedom. Instead, they provide for his safety and the safety of others.  Commands such as “stop,” “lead,” or “leave it” are all designed to provide for his safely in crossing streets and disengaging from other canines, felines, squirrels, etc.  So as it is with these Ten Simple Codes of Conduct – they are not given to take away from our freedom, but they are given to protect us from the invasion of our nation by a foreign competitor, by war or by debt, and the resulting loss of our freedom.
Q. E. D.

 

[i] Robert C. Solomon, “Introducing Philosophy”, 4th ed. Harcourt Brace Jovanovich, Pub. 1989, P 385

[ii], The Bible, NIV, “Exodus 20: 3-17

[iii] Classical Conditioning,  http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Classical_conditioning/

[iv] Peter, The Bible, “Acts of the Apostles” 5:1-11

[v] The Bible, NiV, “Mark 2:27”,

[vi] Greek astronomers, Sixth century BC,

[vii] The Philosopher, https://gadflyblog.com/tag/fibonacci/

[viii] https://anewparadigminchristianthinking.wordpress.com/tag/hypothetical-imperatives/

 

Firstborns, Only Children and the Later Born

Firstborns, Only Children and the Later Born Ver. 1.2.2

(Why to do they Always get Voted the Most Likely to Succeed in Medicine, Science and Politics?)

The Top Gun National Crises Troubleshooter, Retired

https://gadflyblog.com/tag/adlerian-psy/

http://thephilosopheronpolitics.wordpress.com/tag/adlerian-psy/

12/28/2015

Revised 2/8/2017

Copyright 2015

 

Introduction

The Firstborn and the Only Child have some common personality and skill packages that put them in good favor of being successful in medicine, science and politics.  The personality characteristics of the Only Child can somewhat be considered a super firstborn.  A short inventory of Doctors, Scientist, and Politicians reveals a significant population of Firstborn and Only Children.  Only children come in two varieties the Natural Only Child and the Functional Only Child.  The basic premises are that the Only Child grew up in their family of origin without the benefit of younger siblings to interact with.  Firstborns also come in different varieties: Firstborn, Firstborn Male, Firstborn Female and those who had at least five years separating them from their siblings.  Several of the past presidents of the USA were Functional Only Children as shown in the chart below.

Notable Leaders with Similar Families of Origin

Person of Interest Sibling Status[i] Leadership Roles
Abraham Lincoln Lost younger sibling at early age.  A functional only child. President of USA during Civil War
Theodore Roosevelt Lost younger brother at early age.  A functional only child. President of USA, Leader of The Rough Riders at San Juwan Hill.
Franklin D. Roosevelt Raised by mother/grandmother. A functionally only child President of USA for four terms.  Strengthened the US infrastructure.
Thomas Edison[ii] An only child Early American Inventor extraordinaire.
J. Edgar Hoover[iii] Older siblings greater than ten years.  A functional only child Head of the FBI for fifty years
Bill Clinton Raised up alone as a functional only child. President of the USA

 

 

George W. Bush Seven years between first son and second son President of the USA
Barak Obama Raised up alone as a functional only child. President of the USA

 

Vladimir Putin [iv] Natural only child Leader, Russia
Dr. Dobson[v] Natural only child Head of Focus on the Family
Teaching Pastor [vi] Natural only child Leader and teacher of a local church

Adlerian Psychology is the study of Birth-Order and it relationship to personality characteristics.  The foremost author in the late twentieth century and early twenty-first century is Dr. Kevin Leman.[vii]  Below is his chart of Firstborn personalities the benefits and handicaps.

Traits of a Firstborn[viii]

Trait Positive Aspects Negative Aspects
Perfectionist Does everything well Overly critical and dissatisfied with his own performance
Driven Ambitious, headed for success Always under great pressure
Organized Able to stay on top of everything No room in life for flexibility
Scholarly Able to think problems through and solve them Sometimes thinks too much; is overly serious
List Maker Get things done; knows where he’s going Boxes himself in; becomes a slave to his list
Logical Avoids pitfalls of compulsive behavior Knows he’s right even when he isn’t
Leader Plays an important part in his family, community, etc. Expected to do too much; always leaned on by others
Compliant Known as a good guy Known as an easy mark
Aggressive Gets ahead in life’ others look up to him Tends to be selfish and to disregard the feelings of others

 

Traits of Only Children [ix] (Super Firstborns)

Trait Positive Aspects Negative Aspects
Uncompromising Gets what they want Others do not get what they want
Communication Style “I want” this and “I want” that Others do not get what they want
Controlling Must be in control of all situations Others are left out of participating in the solutions
Must be the leader Natural take charge leaders Cannot follow some else’s lead

 

 

In charge of their life Knows where they are going Does not always know how to get where they want to go or accept nontraditional methods
Trusts in Tradition Steady guiding force of the proven whether successful or not; trusts the existing paradigm Not receptive to out-of-the-box thinking; will reject a new paradigm
Non-Negotiator They get what they want No experience in negotiating a “Workable Compromise” with another sibling
Successful against all odds “They can be anything they want to be” “Their mother or grandmother”. Good examples of “The Peter Principle” ( promoted above their capabilities)
Criticism Criticizes self for improvement to perfection Criticizes others.  “Judge and what every measure you use to judge, so shall you be judged.” [x]
Pays attention to the details Advantageous in Science, Engineering and Medicine Can get bogged down in the details striving for perfection
Long range planners Can make detailed plans for the future of an organization Gets committed to his plan and unwilling to change course.
Likes structure Scheduling/Planning/Structure is paramount Does not do well with spontaneous  opportunities
Prefers association with more mature adults Grew up alone with adults, therefore is comfortable with more mature adults Misses out on some play time with adults in their age group.
Approval seeking “Look what I have done by myself” Works better alone than with a group

 

Discussion

The largest difference between the Firstborn in the family and the Only-Child is their interaction and competition for their parent attention with their siblings.  The Firstborn with siblings is often put in charge of the younger siblings and develops leadership skills and sensitivity to the feelings of their siblings.  They are often responsible for organizing the games they will play together and setting the rules of the games.  The Firstborns will develop a parental role towards their younger siblings looking after them and protecting them.  This will usually manifest itself in a “Tell Assertive” communicative style where they usually assert themselves by telling other what to do.   It’s little wonder that this family pecking order is reestablished in the workplace.  The Only-Child misses out on these interactions with siblings; this could be a natural or a functional Only-Child (one who lost their siblings early in life or was isolated from them in different ways) and comes into the workforce with a individualistic communication style (It’s all about me).

To meet the demands of their younger siblings, the Firstborn must learn the art of “negotiating workable compromises”, the Only-Child is not afforded this opportunity.  The Only-Child has no competition for their parent’s attention and is often made to think they are the most important person on the planet (which from their parents point of view they are the most important person on the planet).  The Firstborn has this position of being the most important person on the planet for a short period of time until the second child is born.  They get read to sleep at night and spend time alone with their parents for this short time, than the competition arrives and their exclusive access to their parents change and the amount of time the parents can focus on each child changes.  This can be shown experimentally by examining the forensic evidence in the family photo album.  There one can find many photos of the Firstborn alone, but the rest of the siblings are photographed with “The Gang” with the exception of the Lastborn who gets some individual attention from their parents when their siblings have left the nest.

The Middleborn

The middle kids usually develop good negotiating skills, they have had to establish “Their Space” between an older sibling and a younger sibling and keeping the peace between the older and younger sibling especially if all are the same sex.  This negotiating skill will manifest itself in an “Ask Assertive” communication style where they learn how to maintain control and the peace by asking questions to assert themselves over their siblings and coworkers.  They often find themselves in middle management positions keeping the peace between those running the organization, the firstborns, and the lastborn workers.   The middle-born child often tries to get through live without being noticed, they are just part of “The Gang” [xi]

The Lastborn

The Lastborn grows up with almost everything laid out for them by their older siblings and parents and they come into the workforce looking to be directed by others in the workforce.  They often want their own ‘Freedom’ but once on their own find it difficult to manage their affairs to keep them solvent.  They tend to be more sociable than their older siblings and an easy mark for being taken advantage of in adulthood. [xii]   Probably from their social nature, the Sales Force seems to be disproportionately populated with the Lastborns in their family of origin, and comedians and philosophers are also well represented by the Lastborns (Anything to get out of doing real work).

Personal Experience in Adlerian Psychology

At a national science laboratory platform speakers club (LLNL), I once had the podium in an impromptu speaking session.  The meeting was held in a large conference room holding over a dozen people.  I asked the members of this speakers club how many of them were the firstborn in their families of origin?  All the people in the room, except me, raised their hand indicating they were the firstborns in their families.  I performed a similar experiment in a study group at a local church again with over a dozen members.  I asked how many men in this class had an older brother.  Ninety percent of the men raised their hands.  I then asked how many women in this class were the oldest in their family of origin; eighty percent of the men with older brothers came to class with their firstborn wives!  At another church where I had previously been a member and knew several men in this church, I asked if they had an older brother, their answer “yes” even the young preacher had an older brother.  Does this mean that ninety percent of men who are involved with the mission of a church have an older brother?  I asked the young preacher if his older brother went into the field of science, he replied in the affirmative.  Does this writer have an older brother?  “Yes”.  Ten years older, that would qualify this writer as a functional only child.  Is this writer involved with the mission of the church?  This is the same writer of the Blog: http://anewparadigminchristianthinking.wordpress.com/.

The Case of DNA

Does DNA play a role in our personality traits and skill packages?  In a recent program, on PBS, the latest developments of DNA science were disclosed that our DNA changes with our experience so as we learn new skills (and knowledge) our DNA changes to reflect these additions to our skill packages.  Therefore, when the parents, who are young and inexperienced, have their first children, the DNA passed down to these first children will be different than the DNA passed down to later children because the DNA of the parents have changed with their adult experiences.  All of the children in a family will then receive different skill packages from the same parents, depending on how more advanced and experienced their parents developed.

QED

[i] http://deadpresidents.tumblr.com/post/15457991558/which-presidents-were-the-oldest-child-the

[ii] PBS 2015

[iii] ibid

[iv] Frontline 01/2015

[v] Personal information

[vi] ibid

[vii] http://drleman.com

[viii] Dr. Kevin Leman, “The First Born Advantage” Revell pub., 2008, P 69

[ix] Personal observations well working with the USA’s Best of the Best at a national science Laboratory and a local church

[x] Jesus Matthew 7:1-5

[xi] http://drleman.com

[xii] Luke 15:11-24

Restructuring Social Security

Restructuring Social Security, Ver. 1.1.1

Jack E Johnston

https://gadflyblog.com/pension-plan
11/20/2014

Copyright 2014

The New Pension Plan for USA Citizens

The University of California (UC) probably has one of the best pension plan management in the country and should be used as a role model to restructure the Social Security Administration (SSA).   Breaking apart to its component parts results in a “Non-Profit, Academic Institution, managing a pension plan for its members”.  The present SSA uses new investor’s funds to pay unearned dividends to the matured investors.  The 401K and 403B plans put the pension plans in the hands of inexperienced investors.   My Stock Broker of many years, states “Stock brokers have the highest turnover rate of any profession.   A lot of people want to become Stock Brokers, but few are successful”.   The 401K-403B investors have only a few choices of investment provided by their employer, or they need to find a fund manager or manage their investments themselves.   There is a slim chance they will find a successful investment manager; there is also a slim chance of investing with a dishonest investor that steals their invested funds, and they themselves have a long learning curve to go through to be successful investors in their pension plans.

The Structure of the USA Pension Plan

The model of UC can be multiplied several times over using “non-profit, academic organization to manage pension plans for our citizens”.   With a choice of Academic organizations there will be competition between the academic organizations which should produce excellent rate of returns on investments for our citizens, especially if they can move their pension plan from one academic organization to another and the non-profit academic organization are allowed to collect a small management fee (1-3% prorated) of the funds invested for managing the pension funds, they will have even more incentive to produce excellent rate of returns on investments.  Rate of returns for the various academic organizations should be made available to the public.  This program results in smaller government, something that is supported in the conservative Congress.  The funds will be out of the control of the government, so legislators trying to balance a budget will not have access to the pension funds, this should produce long-term stability.

The Benefits of the Pension Plan for USA Citizens

The Budget will benefit as the nation will not have the expense of operating the SSA and the government will be only be in a subsidizing position resulting in a smaller government.  The transition from the present SSA system of paying the mature investors with new investor’s funds will probably have to be a negotiated transition and could be coordinated with the 401K and 403B programs.

The Non-profit, academic organization will produce income and will be able to lower the cost of admissions to their academic organization resulting in more educated citizens and greater tax dollars to the USA Government.